What do you think about open relationships?

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blueonblack22 · Accepted Answer

I think it’s an oxymoron to say “open relationship” because a “relationship” is supposed to denote loyalty and commitment.

Anyway it’s really just a euphemism for friends with benefits. But for one reason or another the phrase “friends with benefits” has fallen out of vogue in recent years. Many women highly dislike that phrase.

My theory is that the phrase “open relationship” sounds more palatable to people especially women. It gives them the illusion that someone is committed to them and has real feelings.

But what’s to stop you from falling in love and have stronger feelings with someone else while you are in a “open” relationship? And when you end up committing to someone else your now ex who originally trusted you not gain feelings if you messed around with someone else is now likely heartbroken.

The western vernacular is so screwed up nowadays. People use semantics thinking it will alleviate negative feelings like shame, guilt, etc. All it’s done has confused, frustrated and depressed people. Sure there are some short term excitement and benefits. But in the long run it defies what God (or Mother Nature or whatever you believe) intended. That always ultimately leads to unhappiness.

Let’s at least go back to calling a so called “open relationship” what is really is: friends with benefits. At least in that scenario expectations and reality are more properly set.

lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

they should be closed for the sanctity of the offspring and each person.

No shame if you are different, maybe it works for some humans... we're all different. But I don't get how it works in real life application. I don't understand how that is good for the children, for they may not be wired like the parents.

If they are open, then you accept all consequences and repercussions and do not pass on the subsequent costs to me via socialism. And that's the problem... they will be, so I say.

Close them...

Not that this is a leading cause of world problems... yet.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

It's just another way of saying you don't want to commit to one person, and you want to sleep without it being considered as "cheating."

Can't say I'm a fan of it. I know open relationships work for some people: good for you! But those of us that prefer monogamous, closed relationships with ONE person? Such relationships don't work for us, and I will immediately dismiss a guy that so much as utters he's into that.

Breanna_nonbinary · Accepted Answer

My wife and I are in an open relationship. We allow each other the freedom to pursue the things we need with others be it friendship, intimacy, or whatever. I love her and she loves me. Our relationship is strong and we don’t feel jealousy towards each other. But more than that we understand human behavior and the needs we have as humans. We are partners in life and celebrate the love we have for each other with others.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

People afraid of commitment, setting themselves up for more hurt.

AdithyaR · Answer

They're tricky to pull off. I've seen way too many instances of people using the excuse of open relationships to just cheat without consequences.
The thing is, open relationships only work if:
The participating members are polyamorous
Have a relationship built on proper boundaries and respect and trust
And aren't doing it for a reason like spicing up the relationship

Also I've generally noticed that relationships that started out as open are much more likely to succeed and continue in a healthy way. Now while there are some who start monogomous and later transition to open successfully, a lot of them don't and it's generally because one partner wants it and the other doesn't so there's a rift.

Anonymous · Answer

I was in one years ago. I knew the relationship had no long term when she suggested it but rather than dump her I just went a long with it because I wasn't ready to find a new place to live, I wanted to continue having sex with her because she had nice big tits and I wanted to use the opportunity to explore some sexual fantasies threesomes, foursomes etc. Anyway the open relationship created some distance between us in the relationship and she started to get jealous and wanted to go back to being exclusive, knowing that she had slept with about 40 guys that wasn't going to happen. I broke up with her when I was ready and had met a girl 6 months later, who I'm now married to with kids. My ex didn't take it well.

Molly1997 · Answer

I don't know I told my boyfriend he can see other people , I think it’s fine. I don’t experience feelings like jealousy etc. And I love him and trust him completely, as he does with me. It’s just sex. I also hate giving BJs but he loves it so if someone else could do that it would be a relief lol

JustinTheGreat · Answer

I mean if both people consent and everyone’s happy, then good for them I guess.
Not something that I would ever do.

and honestly the open relationships I’ve seen, it’s always one partner who’s the one who wants it and the other one doesn’t seem as happy and they’re just doing it for their partner 🤷‍♂️

SolitarySolace · Answer

In my opinion, open relationships mean you don’t give a fuck about your partner. You’re selfish and want multiple which in the end means nothing. Holds no value and doesn’t make anyone involved feel special at all. Just the idea of open relationships makes me hope to die alone. I’d rather die alone than in a pointless relationship.

magiusX26 · Answer

doable but not for many yet too many trt this anyways repeatedly expecting it to magically work out for them. you would thing with the more common "its all about me" mentality more of the younger generation/s have that it would be easier when in fact that exact mentality causes it to work out less often.

Gibbons44 · Answer

I had a feeling 'as long as you and me are first priority to each other, who knows' earlier last week.

Then she sat 3 metres from me primarily with another boy. You can guess what the boomerang of what she did will do to her (I am the more needed by all others of us two - including her entire nation - and, short of a massive apology pronto I won't be giving neither her nor het nation ab-so-lu-tly a-ny-thing.

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

Not for me, but for those that do them well and openly communicate with their partner, they seem very happy and chill for the most part. So, you know, good for them.

Fireguy17 · Answer

as long as all parties involved are fine with it then sure.
But once you start to develop feelings or start getting jealous that one or more of your partners are out with someone else and you get butt hurt about it then no.

Tom404 · Answer

A relationship is the most stable arrangement two people can have. Casually having sex with different people with no emotions or love involved? There is nothing casual about sex. It should be intimate, private, shared and enjoyed by two people who had fully commited themself to one another. Practicing casual sex over extended period of time will undoubtedly change a person and possibly influence the opinion of the one you choose to settle with

Anonymous · Answer

I am going to sound like a hypocrite here, because my opinion here is hypocritical. I'm ok with the guy sleeping with other women if the wife / girlfriend is ok with it. I'm not ok with the girl sleeping with other men, because I know I would not be ok with a partner doing it

RHK36 · Answer

I think there's some that actually like poly and make it work.

Then there's the rest who are trying that lifestyle because they are trash people that don't have self control and found a new way to cheat.

Anonymous · Answer

you mean being single. because why not just be single if you want to mess with multiple people... it's also disrespectful... and an excuse.

Ricky1966 · Answer

It actually turns me on. There's nothing sexier than knowing my wife s screwing other guys. We're married and she's been dating the guy 4 years.

LickwidSkie · Answer

That's a massive "no" for me. I want a woman who truly loves me, not someone that wants to sleep around.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Sounds good, in theory. I would have multiple stable relationships than a totally open relationship, but I guess that’s all up to personal interpretations

alice55 · Answer

People are free to do what they want but it'll surely end up badly with one person getting hurt and lots of STD.

EmmaMary · Answer

That's certainly not for me... However everyone has their prerogative.

Berethor · Answer

I am against it, especially if it means that the woman is going to act in a slutty manner.

Quigly · Answer

Open relationships is proof that the person engaging in open relationships considers relationships to be all about sex and nothing else. It's a very empty, shallow person with no personality or deeper connection to others.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

When in love, I am really possessive.  I can’t accept open relationships.

SnowedIn · Answer

If it works for that couple, then go for it and enjoy.

Jenom · Answer

Not for me at all. I think it will almost certainly lead into complications.

Anonymous · Answer

It works out good for me, because I love to fuck a lot of guys,

Miristheiss · Answer

Nasty. Instant break up if mate brings it up. They are already cheating or wanting to.

happyfoetus · Answer

It is the best in my opinion. Since it gives you a girlfriend/boyfriend without being a lover.

suzzieQ · Answer

As long as all parties consent, I don't. Other people's romantic relationships is no one else's business.

itsalyssaagain · Answer

I wouldn’t call it a relationship. It’s the same as being single lol.

megabamse · Answer

For some it works and for some it don't. For me it don't and i don't want or need it

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

I find them disgusting. If I'm with someone and she even suggested that, I'm dumping her.

Sasha0426 · Answer

I mean, if everyone that’s involved is ok with it and they respect boundaries, no harm no foul 🤷‍♀️

LiamJHayden · Answer

I have no interest, but others can do what works for them.

Anonymous · Answer

It works for "open" minded people.

Anonymous · Answer

Silly. I don't even get how people can seriously call them "relationships" with a straight face.

OddBeMe · Answer

Fine if it’s all consenting. Like polygamy. Funny how it’s usually the guy fckin around tho.

nawtee_me · Answer

Not into them at all. If I am in a relationship it is with one girl only.

Charliefretz329 · Answer

It’s more difficult in some ways and easier in others

Dantezam · Answer

Been there done that, I think is helpful to have it from time to time, what do you think?

Thirsty4more23 · Answer

I think about it but I think someone would get jealous eventually.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

I think people who get into open relationships are highly immature.

Agape93 · Answer

It's my bread and butter.

serious · Answer

That is absolutely cheap and disgusting

CoolCatMar1 · Answer

Not fond of it

Iron_Man · Answer

Not good at all

Wise4myage · Answer

Definitely not my thing.

Pohjolan · Answer

Not my cup of tea.

msc545 · Answer

Great for women, terrible for men.

In_Trance · Answer

they're not for everyone

SmokinAces2000 · Answer

I’ve been a few myself they are fine

RogueScorpion · Answer

Different bodies, different emotions

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

Okay for me, not for my bitch.

cootjuhh · Answer

as long as the sex is good

Cheerfull009 · Answer

Information cheating

Sweetener_ · Answer

Ridiculous

LavLavLuv · Answer

Not my thingg

Anonymous · Answer

They should close it

Reddy4it · Answer

I love it…

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Unacceptable.

ENGLISHlearnerBOY · Answer

I like and I want

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