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It seems like girls are attracted to guys who sleep around. Is it just the fact that the guys who successfully sleep with lots of girls are attractive, or is it that the sleeping around makes him attractive? I mean, does it give you the impression that you got the guy that every other girl wanted? Is that it? I've only had sex with one girl and she left me. The girl I really liked earlier this year, started dating a player type. I don't really have a problem with it, that's her decision. But she seemed so flattered that he was giving her his attention when he could be with other girls and it's making me question how I treat women.

I've always thought that being conservative and only having sex with girls that I fall in love with was the right thing to do. But I get the feeling that I would have a better chance of getting a decent girl if I started sleeping around because she would think that every other girl wants me - which would make her think I'm more attractive.

I don't really have an interest in casual sex, but if it increases my chances of finding the right girl, then it would be worth it. I could be wrong, but I don't think I am. I'm conflicted, but I guess I just have to make a decision.

Hello, my name is Marc and next month I'll be turning 21 years old. Lately, I felt so depressed that I am unable to overcome such sadness.

Let me tell you my story, hoping that you will read it till the end.
First, I'll start with a cliché sentence : I never had any girlfriend, never been kissed, never hold a girl's hand, never dated a girl, neither I've gone out with one of them as a friend. Nevertheless, I had a female friend but that was 10 years ago. As for now, my female friends are limited to only one that I've met at college but it is only an acquaintance so I don't think I can truly consider her as a friend.

Then, being a shy person makes it harder for me to approach girls. Thus, I'm having huge difficulties to talk to girls either at university, or elsewhere. Now, I'm in a need of having a girlfriend. I feel so loveless, but I know that I can't get a girlfriend by staying the same person as I am actually.

I never had the guts to ask a girl her number, neither to ask her out, never. I don't know what to do anymore, I feel so miserable that I'm starting to think that I'll end my life being single and never experience what is true love.

As for the male friends, I've made some friends like two or three persons but I have a lot of acquaintances. Indeed, I believe that making male friends isn't a big deal for me.

To sum up, I desperately want to elevate my self-esteem, to hang out with girls, and eventually have a girlfriend. I don't know what to do, no one taught me how to do it, therefore I have no idea how to proceed.

I'm turning 21, which means I'm getting older. The older I become, the harder it will be to approach girls. I have to do it now, and do it right.
Please, don't even think about the fact that I want a girlfriend in order to have sex. I just need some love from her, and spent time with her.

Thank you for reading, and hoping that you'll take your time to help me in that harsh situation.

Yours sincerely,

Marc