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This girl plays the hot-and-cold game to an extent I've never seen. We've been dating over a month, are sleeping together, and though we have not yet discussed exclusivity, it felt as recently as last week that might be where this is going.

When we're together, she exudes RED HOT interest. When I first made my move, she jumped on top of me and initiated sex. She grabs my arm or hand while walking, squeezing lovingly tight. She rubs my leg while sitting. She caresses my back. She suggests things we should do together. She calls me pet names like "love" or "honey". She's joked about me making a great husband. And she acts incredibly self conscious and vulnerable around me, apologizing about her looks or weight (even though she has absolutely NO reason to feel that way; she's damn sexy). But...

When we're not together she sometimes goes ICE COLD and maddeningly non-responsive. A recent "What are you up to this weekend?" took her all bloody day to respond to. And even then, I got more or less a non-responsive deferral to chat later.

It is possible there is another guy. We met on an app; I paused my account recently (which I wish I hadn't because I didn't know it notifies her of that...) due to work blowing up and wanting to focus on potentially moving this forward. She's still on it and who knows how active she's been.

Right now the ball is in her court. And while I'm tempted to just call her, I feel that is a bad move. I may be smitten, but she should treat me fairly and with respect. She can't just blow me off and expect me to chase. If she misses me, she knows what to do. My instinct is to not contact her until she reaches out. If I don't hear from her for 2-3 days, perhaps I can be more direct. We are past the stage where ghosting is acceptable.

Any thoughts on her motivations here, and what to do?

So I have been friends with this guy for quite a bit. But I met him in the fall... and then came winter. And though Florida is usually hot, fall and winter aren't that hot as long as you're not doing much physical activity outside.

I already quite liked this guy. He was kind, sensitive, not afraid to be himself, funny, excellent at chorus and theater class, etc. One of my closest male friends overall. He was also quite attractive. Blonde, fair skinned, and slightly more feminine looking than most guys. He actually looks a bit "pretty". But still looks like a guy overall. A nice balance.

But thing is, I'm bisexual, and the legs are my favorite body part, on both men and women. And this guy... once spring came along, he would now wear nothing but shorts. And not long ones either, but a hand above the knee to mid-thigh, depending on how hot the day overall was.

And I couldn't help but want to glance at his legs... they were pale as hell, but pale looks good on him. He had very minimal leg hair, it was almost like he shaved, but if you looked closely, you cold see copious very small light hairs. His legs were in excellent shape. Not super burly or thick, but you can tell he takes care of himself and works out often. They looked a bit feminine, but I like feminine guys.

Daily, I couldn't help but throw in a quick glance every time we started up a conversation. Till one day, he eventually caught on, smiled sweetly, and said. "I see you've started taken notice of my legs ever since I began wearing shorts, hm? Well good, cuz I jog and walk around a heck of a lot, and am quite proud of my work. Plus, my legs are already super smooth without needing to shave them." And I just turned real red, but we both laughed it off.

I don't know if it's just me, but ever since that incident... he's been nicer than usual... almost like he's into me.

However, though I'm attracted to feminine men, I'm attracted to actual women MUCH more... but I'm kind of into him, too...