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Family as in having life long obligations towards people who are you're blood relatives

Alex Huxley's Brave New World postulates a reality in which, 'Everyone belongs to Everyone else'. The Culture is Extremely Sexually Free, Everyone is actively encourage to engage in promiscuous sex, there are no fathers, no mothers, no sisters, no brothers.

A Family, what suffocating intimacies, what dangerous, insane, obscene relationships between the members of a group!"

The world was full of fathers-was therefore full of misery; full of mothers-therefore of every kind of perversion from sadism to chastity; full of brothers, sisters, uncles, aunts-full of madness
and suicide."

"Family, monogamy, romance. Everywhere exclusiveness, a narrow channelling
of impulse and energy."

All children are Manufactured in State Hatching Facility, and designated a specific destiny from birth. All are taught the motto of the World State: Community, Identity, and Stability. These are considered the fundamental principles of human social order.

Oh and did I forget to mention, Pharmaceutical Industries have taken over the World and produced the perfect Drug that completely eliminates all Negative Emotions, leaves you in Bliss, and oh yea and it's completely free & subsidized by the Government 😉.

Social Touch is important for all mammals, especially during early development, and well into adulthood it continues to be essential to the daily physical and emotional well-being of primates and humans throughout their lifespans.

Touch has a more immediate impact than words, “because it is physical and leads to a chain of bioelectric and chemical changes that basically relax the nervous system.”

Touch facilities bonding, promotes wellbeing, and reveals information about our emotion state and motivations.

Embracing, Hugging, Carressing, and Kissing are the primary ways in which people communicate affection, passion, and intimacy.

It is not surprising that touch deprivation has significant adverse effects on human wellbeing, being associated with increased anxiety, violence, depression, and hypervigilance.

Finally how do you feel about the fact that: "Social-cultural trends in America have focused for decades on reducing touch.”
- Jay Skidmore Chairman of Psychology at Seattle Pacific University

I am officially 27 as of today, and I never had a real girlfriend. Meanwhile, most of my peers are getting married and/or having kids. I just feel so sad and discouraged.

I crave intimacy, companionship, and sex. Although, I feel all this is unobtainable.

Really, I am wanting me and a woman to be each other's first loves.

Should emotional puzzle pieces align just right.. after all... easy feels good...

If so, it means you don't have to change...

... context...
I've had a friendzone that felt... so easy going, fun, no pain. I learned nothing... time went by... I don't recall changing as I wasn't challenged emotionally as I remained in my comfort zone... one conditioned from the wounds of life. Do you feel fine as you are? My "soul mate" as one described, was a match from hell. She enabled me to be suspended in my flawed state of being as time wasted away.

I've had two romantic relationships since wit lots of pain, the dangling friendzone was poison, but real issues resulted from my emotional flaws in intimate relationships.

My girlfriend today challenges me on moral, value, integrity. She saw foundation cracks early... testing my perceptions was hard, I denied when she tested... avoidance, perception. It hurt her greatly to struggle against "the waves" of my wounded subconscious. I changed, after hours or weeks of fighting.

Serious flaws in my deeper inner self were exposed like the archeologists uncover old relics. Wounds of long ago, stuff that felt "normal" in me, controlled me... limited me... guided me in the wrong directions. Fear... of intimacy, shame. Trusting the wrong people and mis trusting... traced to early life bonding issues with mother. Avoidant personality, passive aggressive... wounds from being sensitive and being hurt and inability to fight back. Just a few. The roots of all is deep emotional wounding in childhood. Point being...

I was warned about how relationships are... work. I didn't understand. Being challenged with love is good.. for your own and mutual growth! Does it end? Is life like a game of donkey kong... conquor one level to get to another, try not to fall down to the bottom... or jump when it's too hard.