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I am 63 years old and I first used an online dating site when I was 51 years old. I have used match. com, Plenty Of Fish, and a few church affiliated sites. In 2007-2008, I had first meetings with at least 15 women and most of them were "one and done's." I dated a few of them for several months each and then met my future ex-wife. Our marriage only lasted 4 years but its failure was not related to the fact that we met online.

In 2015, I again had first meetings with about 10 women before I met a lady who I dated for two years. I broke up with her because, even though she was willing to be monogamous with me the rest of my life, she did not love me. I used online dating for a third time and again had 13 first dates before meeting my current partner. We are living together and committed to a lifelong monogamous relationship.

Have you used online dating sites? Did you have success? If not, why do you think it didn't work for you?

When I was younger, if I met a girl, I was either immediately attracted to her or it was never going to happen. She did not need to open her mouth and say one word for me to know. I just looked at her and I knew I was physically attracted or I knew I was not physically attracted. Of course, physical attraction is only one part of a relationship and there was much else to discover.

As I got older, I actually dated a woman to whom I did not feel an immediate physical attraction and after dating for a few months, I realized that I was strongly attracted to her. When I looked at her, I realized that most other guys would not consider her to be attractive, but I thought she was cute and I wanted a physical relationship with her. Ultimately, the relationship failed but not because of the physical attraction.

Have you ever dated anyone to whom you did not feel an immediate physical attraction? Did that attraction develop over time?