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So I (29F) just got back together with my on again off again boyfriend (29M). We use to date on and off for years. Sometimes it was a year sometimes it was less. Whatever the case, the relationship would end because I just stopped having the emotional connection to him. The last time we were together he was living with me. I just got out of a relationship and he was there for me to help move my, at the time, ex out. He then moved in that same day. We were together for a while but I woke up one morning and felt bad that he felt strongly for me but I wasn't into him anymore. Note, before he wasn't really a great boyfriend. He never really did things for me and I didn't like the input he had over my style and such. But I really think he's changed. My issue is, I don't want to be his rebound. He just got out of a serious relationship and he really opened up to me and shared his vulnerable side. We were just going to meet for drinks because we wanted to remain friends. I was actually seeing someone at the time that I was planning on having a future with, we were together 7 months, and was going to move in with him in August. So I am sure we both have that in common, fresh out of a committed relationship. My boyfriend at the time was being kind of paranoid because I did cheat on him Mother's day and he didn't like the idea of me going to grab dinner with one of my ex's. I told him there was nothing to worry about but once I had a few drinks it was a done deal. My boyfriend at the time was also concerned because my ex is a coke dealer and I was a recovering addict. Later that night I told him the dinner had finished but I didn't tell him my ex stayed for more drinks and we went out and we ended up partying with old friends and getting high. I am worried that my new exbf will freak out my boyfriend (former ex) and I am scared he isn't over his girlfriend. I feel like my current ex isn't over me so I am scared to think my former ex isn't over his ex

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2.5 years, and he had some trouble in the past with this relationship. I am very patient with him, yet he seems to disappoint me by his actions for lack of better terms. For example, we decided (more his idea than mine) to start couple's counseling over 2 months ago. Yet, we haven't started it. Why? His reason is that he's working and doesn't have time to send the required information off to get us started. I remind him every other day about it, and he still doesn't do anything on his end to begin it even though I'm ready, I offered to help him myself, send his information off for him, and he declined.

Recently, I needed assistance to pay for my new phone since my old one had broken badly. I was going to do it by myself and asked him, "if I needed help, will you be there for me" and he said, "yes." But, I couldn't access my online bank since I kept getting the password wrong and asked him to lend me money which I'll pay him back for whenever I get my phone. He said sure and then backed out, saying I was rude/mean/ungrateful/disrespectful when I didn't even say anything. I was taken aback regarding his behavior since he didn't keep his word, and that has been his issue for a long time. I ended up calling an old friend and she helped me get the phone. He apologized for his actions after telling him my friend assisted me, saying he had a bad day at work. I spent so much money on him in the past, regardless of his behavior, to make him happy and be the most reliable person for him.

He said that he's going to spending >1/2 of his earnings on me and that I should behave differently. I told him to keep his money if he doesn't want to spend it; I never ask him for money unless I really need it. It felt like he wanted to be powerful/control the situation to his advantage since I'm the one asking, and I'll be damned to be controlled again since I was sexually assaulted in the past by being controlled for 1.5 years. What do you think?