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We went from meeting, to friends, to hooking up pretty fast but slowly slowly we've become more to each other. He told me honestly when I asked him, he was having sex with others before we became exclusive. He was honest: "we're not dating; I can do whatever I want." When I told him it hurt me that he got with someone else he was very apologetic and he told me he wouldn't do it again. Now that he says we're exclusive I'm so paranoid. Even though he's always in contact with me, I worry that he's cheating. I worry constantly. I get jealous, I get mean, I act unstable because I'm afraid he's lying. He's so kind to me when I act like this. He tells me he'd never hurt me. He tells me if he'd known I wanted to be exclusive earlier he would've been exclusive. He says he's sad that I'm sad and that he wishes he could hold me in his arms at that moment. Every time I feel guilty. He's unfollower all the half-naked women he used to have on instagram "from when he was single". He realized I didn't like the constant drinking and has been trying to slow that down. He's trying to quit smoking because I told him he needed to take care of himself. There are no signs that he's cheating. He is so respectful of me and patient with me and appreciative of me and he tries to prove to me that he genuinely cares about me and wants a future with me. I know I have no reason to think he's cheating. But I'm so anxious. I'm afraid one day I'll have nagged him too much and lose him.
I hate hurting him and picking fights because I'm scared. How do I get over this paranoia and let it go? I always regret the accusations and the mistrust but I can't help how I feel and I end up lashing out. Any advice?

For that sake of this question, I'm only considering a Bachelor's and higher.

I asked a question earlier about men finding women with a higher level of education attractive or intimidating. Most responses actually answered the question (which thank you to those who are able to do that) but there were some that thought I was 'bitter' because I'm single and educated (Bachelor's). Don't know how they got that conclusion from one question but any whooooooooooo...

I kinda noticed on this site in general that people without degrees like to knock down those who have one. It almost seems like they don't feel a Bachelor's is something anyone should be proud of. It's always 'wow, you wasted your money' or 'you know that doesn't make you smart, right?'

I'll be honest, but it seems like those comments come mostly from bitterness that they don't have a higher level of education or didn't have the ability to get one. I don't think I've ever seen anyone on here say that you need to get a Bachelor's so I don't get the anger from those who do not have one. I tell my students all the time that technical schools are great as are community colleges and certificated programs and that college is not the only avenue.

But it's getting really annoying that people who don't have a degree feel the need to knock someone down just because they do have one. I don't get that logic. I think they have the perception that a Bachelor's makes someone think they're better than others but really it's just being proud of your accomplishment. I think people without a degree act like they're better because they had this revelation that college is expensive as if no one with a degree knew that going in.

I've seen it from both men and women (though, granted, I've seen it a lot more from men) this attitude.