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I have known this guy my whole life. His mum has been friends with my nan since before we were both born so we are family friends. He is 24 and I am 20. We lost contact for a bit over the years but reconnected properly 2 and a half years ago and both told eachother that we had a crush on the other when we were growing up. Since then we have spoken often but never dated. We go through the same cycle of saying we like eachother and want to make it "official" but he always comes up with something afterwards like "i have commitment issues", "I'm not ready for a relationship" or "I don't know how my mum would react". We meet up every few months and usually end up being intimate then he ghosts for weeks or months. We have a good laugh when we are together and it could be amazing if we saw eachother more often. He got out of a very physically abusive relationship with a girl where he had to get a restraining order, so I always use that as the reason he might be scared to commit. I met his mum recently which seemed like a big step cause I didn't see her for the 2 and a half years we were talking and she is the most important person in his life, but I still feel like I am getting mixed signals from him. Don't know whether it is time to move on or whether I might be getting somewhere.