I usually watch videos complaining that if men/women are this, or are that. For example that women are hypergamy gold-diggers by nature, or that men are just chauvinistic promiscuous whores.
This is what I learned: Women and men are just people. There are people you can rely your life on, and there are people that are better just as adquirances.
Your goal is not to convince them, but first to qualify the good ones from the bad ones.
Just find the dependable ones, be someone they could depend on, and save your time on anything else.
If it isn't a clear "ou yeah" then it's a clear "no".
Also see that the other gerner experiences the same choice, all the time. Meeting unreliable people that want to get into their pants, or lock them into a committed relationship just because they want that relationship.
No surprise sometimes they are that suspicious, or even that entitled. It's not necessarily because you.