No one owes anybody anything
This is as simple as it gets. I pay for myself and he pays for himself (or we take turns but we'll need to be committed to each other first). That way no one can blackmail you into some kind of debt and he won't even think or mumble, that he's been used for a free meal. Besides it is more comfortable this way. You can focus more on the things, that do matter.
There is no pressure or hard feelings
No figuring out if the other person pays for it. Or that the other will be offended. Most of the times at least. There is no reason to feel like using someone or being used by someone. Plus you stand out from those, that expect men to pay for them.
It is simple
No idea why some folks still make a big deal out of it. Life works this way. If you want something, you work for it. It has always been like that. Like it or not. I do, so deal with it.
It signals that we are equals
To oblivion with those silly and ancient stereotypes and double standards.
We women are no longer helpless little princesses in need of rescuing. We'll do the rescuing ourselves and meet our partner halfway there... or we might even go a few steps further if we like to. No one is above the other. There is no feeling like it.
Ain't nothing better than that anyway
Like what's the alternative? With so many users, rebounds, gigolos and gold diggers among the people the risks and drawbacks and second thoughts of only either paying is simply not worth it.
Keep it simple, keep it casual, keep it low pressure and focus on each other 💕💞 it will be fun!
That's the way to go 💗