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Connected with a guy through a friend - I suspect he is an Aspie (formal choice of words, miscommunications, not understanding metaphors (taking things literally) and general awkwardness all around).

Thing is, we were supposed to meet for the first time about a month ago but I had to reschedule twice a while back as sth urgent at work came up and 2nd time I was really sick from the vaccine. That's when things got a bit strange

1) We attempted to rescheduled a third time. I offered 2 days - said day X could work but day Y would be best. He didn't respond for 4 days so I was kinda disappointed thought I was being ignored - on day Y, he assumed we were on and reached out to confirm plans but I'd already made plans but offered to meet for a quick drink that night before my later plans

He didn't respond to that. I was bewildered at this point.. I thought about it and then the asperger hit me. Someone also later told me that offering to meet for a drink before actual plans sounds like I see him as an afterthought so I gave the benefit of the doubt and assumed miscommunication. I messaged the next day saying I'm not sure what happened but would still like to meet

2) He replied 2 days later asking when I was free. We agreed to a day and on the day of i didn't hear from him (he has always texted the past few time) so i asked if we were still on. He then asked if we could reschedule to a week night as he wasn't feeling the best from a hangover on but said he could still make it. I was bummed out and told him no problem and feel better soon.

He then texted back that his:
- Schedule is open all5 days for the week
- apologised sincerely (albeit really formal) and thought his hangover would pass by now
- Later added that he could still make it but just would not be his usual chirper self

How would you find this? Does this sound like he got cold feet? He could have told me he was feeling hungover earlier in the day before I texted.

So, my boyfriend and I have been together for a couple months. It started out amazing, it was sort of a "friends to lovers" situation. We were very talkative and got comfortable around each other quickly. But, he's started ignoring me to play video games or watch tiktok a lot lately (it's been a few weeks now). Like, not texting the whole day then coming back the next saying some bullshit like 'sorry I was playing all day and I fell asleep'.

I would understand, I get being addicted to video games and tiktok, but he's been ignoring me even when I've told him I needed him or I missed his company.

We've barely talked the past week, and when we have, he's always initiated some kind of sexual topic that had us end up having phone sex or exchanging.

I feel like he got bored of me and is now just using me for sex. I confronted him, but he didn't really care until I suggested breaking up, telling me he loves me and that he doesn't know what he'd do without me.

I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt because he said he doesn't really understand 'feelings' and it's his first relationship, but I'm quite sensitive and I need someone to be there to show that they care.

I don't really know what he feels or what I should do.

Does he still like me? Should we break up?

I have a mate whom I have been with for over three years now. We live in different cities. With Covid around, We are playing it safe for now so he is home taking care of his sick aunt who is on a "time table" as far as when she would pass. He has gone over all the expenses with me. They amount up to plenty! I am pretty successful and am saving for my own future and his too and know when he and his sisters and a brother would sell the house one day, he would have his own money. Problem is, he used the word "short term" as in problems in getting through. I know the aunt has enough to get them through for a little bit but it won't last and may take awhile to even rid the house and for them to make plans to leave. I feel I am around sometimes to help with this problem and to care for him also someday as he is not a hundred percent well. Do you feel I could be this crutch for his own future? Yes, he loves me but sometimes I have doubts on some things. Am I wasting my time? Help is needed.