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I had my first heart break ever. She was the first girl I ever dated, and in short fashion, she's the one who broke things off.

My reaction to it was quite "simple", I accepted her decision and walked away. However, a lot of people (friends, family, etc. ) started saying that if I truly loved that girl, then I would never let her go, and I would keep fighting no matter what. Ted Mosby (from HIMYM) said something like "If you're looking for the word that means caring about someone beyond all rationality and wanting them to have everything they want no matter how much it destroys you, it's love. And when you love someone you don't stop".

So many people believe that you never stop fighting if you're deeply in love. That's something I don't personally agree with. I think that it is actually harder to let go when you're in love with someone. The simple fact of just realising that you are no longer a need to their happiness is very difficult to deal with and to accept. It's actually selfish not to acknowledge that and keep on fighting for your own feelings. Letting go shows you are selfless, that you care more about the other person's feelings than yours. From personal experience, I've always found it harder to be selfless than selfish.

But that's my point of view. I've seen that a lot of people around me don't share the same opinion. Which one do you people think is a real proof of love? Fight or Let go?

I am just genuinely curious to know what you people think.

I'm seeing a girl who I felt I was compatible with, sweet, kind hearted and had her morals straight. When things are good it's quite good. The flipside has been very hard. To start, she's not that educated but acts like she knows better and refuses to trust what I say is correct or incorrect, argues with me and even googles to prove me wrong, which fails. She is extremely hard headed, stubborn and prideful when it comes to arguments. Like an immature brick wall. She avoids answering my questions a lot when I'm calling her out on her shit or something that I felt was wrong, hurtful, or mean. She never admits when she's wrong. Like things we all know no one would like, she would lie saying she'd be okay with it, just to deflect her guilt. She is insecure, has daddy issues, threatened to commit suicide multiple times even if she has a son, doesn't remember important things I tell her and things we've argued about before, so stubborn to admit when one is wrong and then attacks me claiming I'm a person who always wants to be right, doesn't communicate well, takes things out of context, makes up what she thinks I'm thinking and doesn't believe what I'm actually thinking, so jealous and paranoid that I will run off with some other girl and straight goes into accusation mode and treats a faithful person like he's a cheater when she is a person who is overly friendly and taken as flirtatious (ie. greets random security guard with duck face puckered lips, eyes closed with hand gesture next to her eye like taking a photobooth sticker pic). It feels so unfair and she makes it like everything she does is okay but if I do something it's not or suspicious. Almost everytime she drinks she causes an argument/fight by getting snappy, angry, cussy. I feel so exhausted and drained. I feel like she is bringing the worst out of me. She says she'll change but we have the same fights and feels like she never will. She says she loves me but doesn't change what's destroying us. Is that love?