Expectations And Realities Of My Interracial Relationship
Intro:
Hello GAG community, I'm back again. This time with a topic I normally dread lol. Seriously the interracial talk and etc that's been popping up lately annoys me quite a bit sometimes. BUT I'm in a good one today! And I figured I might as well give myTake on it since I'm actually in one.
I'll begin by saying, despite my profile picture I am actually a "light-skinned" African American woman. (The doll in my picture is my nieces favorite, and she picked it out when I fixed up this account. At the time I did have red hair though.)
My boyfriend (We can call him Lucas, a fake name for identity), Is a Caucasian man from England.
The cover art I chose for this myTake is largely inspired by the fact that I actually look exactly like the female in the picture lol. Yes, Ripley (The female it's portraying from the ALIENS movies) is white but I actually wear my hair exactly like this. My features look like the art and even my skin a bit. Just tanner.
Also, I mean I think it's a cute picture and it feels like a cool humorous way to start this topic considering it's showing a relationship between a xenomorph, part of an alien race. And human, part of the human race lol.
Anyhow, as always, enjoy, ot not. Both are welcomed. Let's get this started!
Expectation #1: Personality
Me To him: He thought I was cut from a different fabric all together. Ghetto, interested in black men only, and wasn't too fond of white people. Also too young to understand much about life, other than the small bubble of life that I grew up in with my parents.
Him To Me: I didn't think much. I just thought he was introverted, easily agitated, well-spoken, and came from a good amount of wealth but still a little edgy. He kind of looks like a lumberjack and wears all black most days. So I was mixed on my feelings about him.
Reality:
Me To him: Lucas was pretty much wrong about all of that. Except for maybe ghetto haha, but that's only small habits or when I'm around my family. They make me wild! Even so, it's just my eating habits, slang, and dancing on rare occasions.
However, I only act that way around loved ones and he likes it so I'm fine lol.
Anyhow, he realized I'm actually really big on manners, presentation, being a lady, and having self-value as a whole. I also, take the time to learn as much as I can, I like being informative and knowledgeable. Not only that but I've never dated a black man before, not that wouldn't but he was wrong about me just liking black men basically.
I've dated all races but black just about lol. No idea how it ended that way.
Also, he said saw how charming, sweet, and goofy I am all while still having an edge and roughness in my nature.
Him To Me: I found he was really really funny. Yeah, he's a jerk and standoffish to most people, but when you get to know him he's pretty sweet. Basically, he's hard on the outside and sweet on the inside, I'm the opposite. He's also really into taking care of his family and has an open mind that I adore witnessing every day.
He's not super wealthy, he comes from a kind of a similar environment I grew up in. He likes to call himself a "Ghetto boy" to fuck with me lmao. But he is well spoken and extremely intelligent. Makes me feel like a dumbass sometimes. But I like it, he teaches me a lot and doesn't rub mistakes in my face.
He is introverted and does get irritated easily but he has good patience in his actions. We almost never argue and we get down together really well-
Expectation#2: Music
Me To Him: He thought I was going to be into a lot of rap music and R&B.
Him To Me: Eh, thought he was a metal head not going to lie. That or loved rock music.
Reality
Me To Him: He was wrong a little bit. I do love R&B and rap but not a lot of it. I hardly listen to it. I'm mostly into reggae, Indies, and alternate. I love all genres though, well...besides some metal. I'm mainly into stuff like this-
However, this is the first song I ever dedicated to him-
Him To Me- I was pretty right, he mostly likes rock and some metal. Also, quite a bit of electric/techno. He's been getting more into my kind of music and vice versa. He really loves old school rap, but this is the music he's into-
This is the first song he dedicated to me, he said the girl reminds him of me because she dresses and acts like me a little lmao-
Expectation #3: Style
Me To Him: He figured I dressed in a lot of hoodies, bandannas, large earrings and etc. The stereotypes basically, with the exception of casual clothing.
Him To Me: I just thought he wor all black and some dark colors. Always casual; or rock styled.
Reality
Me To Him: He was right and wrong at the same time. I'm very versatile and I wear pretty much every style. It just depends on my mood. Most days though, I'm either pastel themed or black/dark themed.
Him To Me: I was right, he only wears all casual black with a beanie or rock band shirts with a beanie.
Expectation #4: How We Are As A Couple
Me To Him: I'm pretty sure he expected me to be really nasty. Rolling my neck, cursing, being loud and disrespectful. Always nagging him, super jealous, and rough.
Him To Me: Honestly, he made me almost cry the first day we met because he was being so aggressive and challenging my every word. Later he told me it was to see if I could hold my own. But seriously, when I say he had me on the verge even when he asked for my number I was looking at my friend like this-
I hardly ever cry and he had me trying not to be weak and hold my shit together. So I expected him to be an asshole/bipolar the entire relationship. Didn't expect us to last long. But I liked crazy so I went for it anyway haha.
Reality
Me To Him: Alright, so maybe I do get a LITTLE jealous if he talks about a girls looks too long. Or if girls try to date him even though he says he's taken and ignores them. I still feel my old ways come up and I want to beat some ass
Other than that, I'm pretty much a doll. He was wrong. I cook, clean, warm his towels in the dryer for when he gets out the shower. Give him rubs, super loving, always giving gifts, planing dates, and an overall passionate person. I take a lot of pride in being a romantic.
And I have a lot of respect for him, I don't raise my voice to him and If I slip I apologize automatically and fix my tone. I like to drool over him so yeah, totally wrong. I'm a bitch t other people sometimes though.
Him To Me: He's a total sweetheart, I was really wrong for the most part. I mean, yeah he can be pretty blunt and cold when pissed but overall he's super kind and caring. He hit me with that surprise like-
More than any man I've ever met actually. He always asks me if I'm okay and wants to know what I'm thinking. Takes his times and takes really good care of me. Every time I see him I just smile like-
The literal name I address him as since I'm part of DDLG/Some BDSM (Not an extremist) He's basically my dom though, BUT that's a story for another time lol.
Expectation # 5: Body & Sexual Expression
Me To Him: He thought I was gonna be super aggressive sexually, pretty vanilla, and kind of controlling. A little naggy, but charming to some degree. Fun and hopefully curvy. (I was wearing some baggy clothes when he met me.)
Him To Me: I actually wasn't sure, I thought he'd be pretty kinky honestly. He looked sort of like it to me anyway. I thought he'd be a normal guy sexually. Dominant but pretty easy going. And average size down south.
Reality
Me To him: Wrong, I'm not super aggressive. I am passionate, attentive, and precise. I've been kind of practicing and perfecting my craft for a while so he actually was pretty surprised. I'm submissive but sometimes I switch. I'm really good at role plays and kinks. And I am pretty curvy.
Also, I surprised him that I was bisexual.
But that actually goes pretty well, we're both open-minded in that part of our lives. I don't mind dabbling in that for him if he asked me. He's free to do a lot of stuff if he asks me. We'd just have to follow the rules we put in place.
Him To Me: No, he's actually really amazing all around. SUPER caring though. He takes aftercare and making sure I'm okay really serious, no matter what we do. No really, he always tells me thank you after and tries to check on me emotionally, physically, and mentally. Outside of that, he can be really aggressive, in good ways though.
And yeah! I'm finished, lol. I'm only doing five, for now, I'm tired as hell. I'll do another one if you want me to but I doubt y'all care that much haha. I love you GAG community. Have a good one.
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