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OK so here is the scenario. You're the brother. You have a girlfriend that has been with you for 9 years. And a sister that your girlfriend has known since birth. One night your parents get in to a car accident that leaves them both dead, and your sister without a home. You're the elder brother, so the state has come to you, and asked you to adopt the sister. The only other option is for her to be in foster care permanently.

You discuss at length with the girlfriend and you both agree to adopt the sister, she should be with family. When the sister moves in you find out she's very traumatized from the event, she has trouble being alone, can't go to sleep unless someone is there with her. You have to take her to and from counseling every week.

One day the girlfriend comes to you saying this is not what she signed up for, she's not ready to be a mother. She wants you to cancel the adoption. She issues the ultimatum "which do you choose, me or your sister" of course you talk it over, you don't abandon family. The girlfriend agrees and things are OK for a week. You then find out from the sister that the girlfriend has been mean to her off and on. You confront the girlfriend, she apologizes, and things are better for a week. But she starts again, and then you have a massive fight where she gives the ultimatum again.. Of course you tell her to pack her shit and get out, because you don't abandon family.

After that the mental health of the sister gets better though she wrongly feels like it was her fault the girlfriend and you broke up.. Ultimately family is first.

This happened to a friend of mine.

Which would you choose guys, your sister or your girlfriend...

Ladies would you force him to choose between you and his sister?

So I have been crushing on a coworker for months, and I never made a move because I know dating a coworker is very risky and also because frankly she is way out of my league. We would be the kind of couple that people would seriously stop and stare and think, "Why is she with this guy? She could do so much better."

We work in different departments, so we have only had very minimal contact with each other, and it's always been about work related stuff. We have never talked about anything not related to work, so honestly I don't even know if she knows I exist beyond just being a name on her computer.

I started crushing on her when I decided to look her up on Facebook. Yeah, I know I probably shouldn't have done that, but hindsight is 20/20. She seems like an amazing person from what I have seen on Facebook, but I know that isn't real since I don't even know the real her.

Last week I heard that she gave a two week notice, so this week is her last week at the company. I am just conflicted on what to do. Every woman I dated before I was always friendly and social first before asking them on a date. I don't really have time to do that now since she is leaving this week. I basically have to make small talk with her and ask her on a date on the same day. I know some guys can do that, but that has never been me. So I don't know if I should attempt making a move or to just let her go without ever saying anything.

I am a pretty shy guy and I will most certainly would appreciate a Lady asking me for an undertaking. Please of lovely ladies, make the first move so I dont have to be the masculine dick that comes up to you and asks you to dance or for a drink. But instead, if you see a fellow that might even spike you're interest. Just go for it and ask because you might make his day :)

Comments are sooo welcome.