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I asked a guy out we both seem to like each other , but he was a bit weird about it. At that point i forgot about it.

Then, a month later her asked me out shyly and i was interested though a bit caught off guard bc of his earlier behavior. I genuinely had plans, so i had to tell him that.

After several weeks of hanging out with friends as we often do , I got the feeling he was still interested based on his behavior and things he said. I tend to down play signs so as not to assume wrongly, so I was not sure.

I also, wanted to make a decision as to if id move on or not as we have known each other over a year. So one day after playing chess, I asked him out. Which to me seems 100% rational.

He responded exasperated, as if i he had asked me 100 times and I kept saying no.

OR as if he had said no 100 times and i had asked him 101 times.

It does not make sense, and I do not like him insinuating i am out of line for simply asking him if he wants to hang out. I am not in a rush, I do not mind waiting but waiting -in the case he is interested, is entirely different than just wasting time-in the case he is not interested.

Why should not i ask and why should not he tell me.. I feel like i am in the twilight zone. He was perfectly friendly moments before , how can he get angry so quickly.

Some guys suggested he is angry bc i am not letting him chase me. Well, i guess if he wants a chase that is his choice and no one is forcing him to go after someone who does not want to be chased. It does not explain him getting angry. I am not into games, am i expected to change who i am?

I only asked twice and only bc he was not clear HOWEVER, I have seen guys suggest ask until you get a hard no-so you can move on with no doubt. Sounds logical. I am not against this, though it seems this is not meant for Women. We are supposed to just guess or wait or roll over and play dead until the guy says sit?

We ended on a sad note, but there wasn't any yelling or harsh words. He decided to end it. Boils down to him just not being sure enough to keep going. I told him if he changed his mind right away to not say anything, cause that's just the hurt talking, and to really think before trying again. I want him to be sure. I'm way sure. I want to give him the space he needs. We told each other after the pain subsided we'd keep in touch. And I told him he was my best friend. It was sad and it sucked. But I want him back so bad that it hurts! I know he misses me. We we're wrapped up in each other's lives pretty well. He's the best person I know. Never have I even heard of him pocket dialing anybody. He has a smaller iPhone. And during his lunch time at work I got a call it was clear and then I hear muffling around and then I hear him being all loud but now muffled like I'm in his pants pocket or shirt pocket. I let it go on for a little over a min. Cause honestly I really missed his voice. Do you guys think it was an accident or do you think he's trying to get me to contact. And what do I do? Do I wait and give him some more time? After another week or so, I'm delivering a letter letting him know I still want to be with him and we can teach and learn from each other, I'm leaving it at his door with roses, homemade cookies and a bear. He got me my first roses, so I want to get him his first roses. Should I just wait it out another week or so? Or contact him about the pocket dial?