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I want to understand why I always end up attracting drama with people. While people may say I’m the issue, I don’t think I am. I’m very quiet and only speak when spoken to. In HS, middle school, work, college etc, I have been around all types of people. There’s always one person that dislikes me for no reason. I’m 25 and I have developed major anxiety as a result of my trauma. This anxiety is worsening things for me, because I’m alienating myself. And as a result, people are continuing to judge me negatively because of how quiet I am. I’ve been told things like I’m unapproachable etc but people see what they want to see. I don’t think I’m a bad person or go out of my way to hurt others. So why do people develop issues with me or bring me down etc? My own family did this to me, people I trusted and have known for my existence. At work now, there are women who are close with almost everyone but me. And I’ve never done anything to them. Not to mention, my lack of dating life. I’ve never been asked out by a guy I’d like to date, only unattractive men. I’ve lost a lot of weight and try to maintain my thick/slim figure. So why am I always alone? I swear there’s this curse on me I can’t put a finger on.

This may not be the best place to ask for this type of advice, but please help if you can. 3 YEARS AGO: my widowed mother was emotionally manipulated into marrying someone who she met through a deceitful “friend”. Let me explain; my mom’s best friend’s EX husband (who we’ll call CACTUS) contacted my mom about a potential “HUSBAND” (PRICK) for my mom. Her, being lonely, accepted PRICK’s number and they started chatting. I didn’t think anything of it since she tried to find romance countless times in the past :/ as you continue reading about her situation, keep in mind that PRICK lives on the east coast and we live on the west coast! Literally 2 weeks after they found out about each other’s EXISTENCE, CACTUS and PRICK flew out to the west coast so that PRICK and my mom could meet. When my mom laid eyes on him, there was no denying that she fell in love. ESPECIALLY when he proposed to her! He revealed that he only married her so that he would get his green card (not for love or to grow old together) and FORCED her sign a contract that basically criminalizes her too (it says that she’s aware of the fact that it’s a false marriage, so if she reports him, she’d get jail time as well and he’d get deported back to Uzbekistan). He also has a lawyer on the east coast who’s in on the fact that they have a false marriage and she gives him “advice on how to make their marriage look real” (like moving in together~which only lasted for a year, and was miserable). We’re sick of all his games and the lies we’ve had to deal with! He’s threatening her life and our family if she divorces/leaves him! It’s been three years and he’s done nothing but treat her like filth and my sister and I have helplessly witnessed it all happen. Any time I try to stand up for my mom, he says my opinion doesn’t matter since I’m only 17. How, if possible, can my mom SAFELY leave him? He deceived us KIDS into thinking we’d have a dad who actually cared about us, and that emotionally hurt us.