This girl apparenlty got her nipples pierced but i'm not allowed to know?

[Anonymous]

i had this weird encounter with this girl earlier this year , i don't know the whole story but from what i know. at some point in the summer she got her nipples pierced. which considering the trendyness and popularity of such piercings wouldn't seem to be a big deal anymore for a younger women to do that

but this girl worked as a server at a busy pub downtown , which was sort of how i had originally meet her. anyways one night she had to reach up or bend for something which was how i first clued in to its existence , there appeared to be something oddly shaped in that region , hard to explain why there'd be anything there unless its a piercing. but she really acted weird around me after that and really annoyed if i even glanced at her body.

i was never able to officially confirm if she really got one and if that was why she acted weird around me. but i do recall a couple of the guys from her work discussing nipple piercings around the same time and how everyone they knew got one to show it to other people / show it off and how they were surprised that her? i always assumed they were talking about her wanted to keep in secret

but i don't understand why it matter so much if i knew about her nipple piercing? or why she'd go to such lenghts to conceal it when she was around me. i doubt many people would be surprised these days if the blonde 20 something who worked at the pub downtown and got drunk every weekend had a nipple piercing , i mean she seems like the type so i don't understand why its such a big deal

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my assumption now is that i need to understand why she got them pierced in the first place , and that might help me determine why she was so upset that i might know about em and why she still doesn't want me to know

[Anonymous]

here's the thing, its really not that big of a deal if she got them pierced. but if I saw a guy lookin there, I would feel kinda uncomfortable and think he was a creep. so maybe she doesn't want you to know because she might think your a creep if your looking there.

[Asker]

i agree that it wasn't really that big of a deal for her to get her nipples pierced as its actually a relatively common piercing on women under 30 . but i had checked her out before and she never made an issue about it. it wasn't till she got this piercing that things got weird , it made me feel like i was some sort of second class citizen who wasn't allowed to know , despite the fact i suspect everyone else there must of already known about it , i don't understand why she couldn't of just been open about having one , i mean she works at a bar , she could of casually mentioned it and then it wouldn't of been this crazy secret

[Opinion Owner]

Honestly, im confused as to why she would do that. maybe she thinks you won't like her or think differently because she got them pierced? or maybe she's self-conscious about them?

[Asker]

'also want to add i wasn't a " random customer " i had known her since at least 2013 , which is another reason why i don't understand why she couldn't of been open with me about having a nipple piercing. or why she would of felt it had to be secret , as i'm pretty sure it wasn't a secret around here that she had one , i obviously wasn't expecting her to show it to me when she was at work , it just would of made things a lot less weird this summer had she been open about it

[Opinion Owner]

honestly, at this point just ask her about it. just be like" hey, i heard somthing exciting happened to you" somthing liek that.

[Asker]

i was left confused about the entire episode , she's pretty confident about her body , physically fit , she used to jog all around here ( until oddly she stopped this summer , which was another clue that she really got pierced as i read it cause irritation and she likely couldn't jog for a while with em in ) i'm pretty sure she knew that i liked piercings so i doubt she would of thought that i'd be disgusted with her for getting one , maybe she though i liked it a little too much? or that i'd eventually want to see it one night when she was at work and that she'd get in trouble for doing that if her boss knew she was showing people her piercing?

[Opinion Owner]

just ask her at this point.

[Asker]

my plan was to ask her why she stopped jogging , in the hope she'd just admit it was cause of the piercings but i never got around to it and she's been busy with things lately and not around here , her job there is mostly only during the summer

[Opinion Owner]

i think thats a great way to ease into it

[Asker]

i just don't think she wants to talk about it , the whole thing just doesn't make any sense , i just though it was cool that she actually got her nipples pierced , i don't understand how the whole thing got so weird , and its not really secret if i knew / or strongly suspected she had them , why keep me guessing at this point

[Opinion Owner]

dude, if you really want to know-ask. but dont go back and forth on wether or not to ask. worse case scenario, she gets a little offended. I dont think she will tho.

[Asker]

though about this some more and came up with a new perspective which might help answer my question , i think to understand why she doesn't want me to know she pierced her nipples, we might first need to understand why she got them pierced in the first place , its late i'll explain more tomorrow

[Asker]

my theory centers around trying to understand why she got them pierced if we could figure out the reason it might explain why she didn't want me to know. so what are the main " reasons " girls get pierced nipples.- peer pressure/ gf's/co-workers already have em , - rebel against parents/society , - celebrity influences who have them , - like look of them/ body jewellery , - get over a break up , - body confidence issues , - enhance sex life , bf's wanted them to get em , - seeking male attention , post revealing pictures to social media , - jealously can make women do crazy things , - mentally unstable , crazy or typically makes bad decisions., - drunk/ high late night random thing , - seeking excitement , thrill seeker / bored with things.

[Asker]

so do any of these reasons apply to her? i'm pretty sure none of her co-workers or close gf's have pierced nipples , she is 24 and gets along with her parents so not at the age to typically rebel or feel the need to do something to upset parents , she has a boyfriend so wasn't getting over a break up , she didn't appear to be seeking male attention ( but considering the fact she works at a bar , part of me still wonders if maybe she in fact did want male attention or though guys would buy more drinks/leave bigger tips cause of them? never really know ) , she doesn't appear to have body confidence issues and was very physically fit and attractive , we don't have any late night piercing shops here so pretty sure she wasn't drunk one night , she doesn't appear to be mentally unstable or have a history of bad decisions with body art , from what i know she doesn't even have a tattoo , only wild thing she ever had was her belly pierced and she got that when she was 16 . , any celebrity influences? i don't really know who she follows online , as she has some ear and belly piercings already its possible she likes body jewellery , jealously? who was she jealous about? left wondering if that plays into it

[Asker]

as far as i know she hasn't posted any pictures of them online , she doesn't even have a vsco page and her instagram is set to private so few people could even view it anyways. left wondering if it was to enhance her sex life? did her boyfriend want her to get them pierced? she she decide to get them pierced as a way to spice things up in the bedroom?
might that possibly explain why she was so upset i knew? she didn't want me to know she had a more wild and active sex life than i was aware of? it wouldn't seem out of the question to assume after 3 years of being with the same person that things might of got boring in bed , after a while there isn't anything new to see and do , people want the same things.
if that was the reason she wanted them so bad? maybe its also why she didn't want me to know , it be an admission things weren't going well with her boyfriend and that she was much more wild in bed than i was aware of , something to think about i guess? but only person who knows why she got them is her and she doesn't seem to want to even admit she has em or had em its possible she took them out by this point
but why would she go through such a painful and embarrassing process unless there was a reason that made it all worth it in her mind , saving or enhancing her sex life might justify the painful piercing , long healing process and embarrassment of having to admit to people she had pierced nipples ( still can't even begin to think what her parents must of though of them ) plus the fact she had to quit jogging all summer cause of them , which she normally liked to do

[Asker]

what it comes down to is there has to be some " reason " for her behavior , i don't believe an attractive 24 year old women would just randomly walk into a piercing place downtown and have metal barbells painfully inserted into her boobs unless there was a very specific reason she suddenly had a preference for pierced nipples after 24 years of having non-pierced nipples , there has to be some reason

[Opinion Owner]

Woah woah Woah. let's step back and just calm down for a moment. Look you and I don't know why she got them pierced. it could be for any of the reasons you listed, but no offense, the fact that you thought about it that much. you're a little bit to invested in this. it's like me wondering why my mom got almond milk and not cow milk without telling me. being honest, I would just ask her. don't torture yourself coming up with all of these reasons. and even if you never find out why, don't worry about it. iif she still talks to you and everything, then no harm is done. GOOD LUCK!

[Asker]

guess i knew her for sometime and have liked her for a while , which was why i wondered exactly how this all came to be? obvious is some reason why she suddenly had a pierced nipple. the most likely reason is that she wanted them pierced , although exactly why remains harder to understand. i don't think there is anything wrong with me being interested in her , perhaps i was a little bit obsessed the nipple piercings but they are typically the kind of thing that drives guys crazy. which might also explain why she wanted one. but its one of those things , may or may not figure why she did this , its one of those things , if she chooses to take them out or hide them or simply not talk about it , like it never happened , hard for me to ever get an answer , but pretty certain she did in fact have a pierced nipple this summer , it wasn't something i dreamed up it did exist

[Opinion Owner]

yep, she got them pierced, but remember it was her decision to get them done. who knows why, but don't worry about it. if you like this girl, ask her out, make a move. don't let the piercings stop you or the reason why. there's much more to her than her piercings.

[Asker]

it just bugs me that she doesn't want me to know about them , it doesn't seem like a big deal to me that a 20 something girl has a body piercing. for some reason she decided to get all weird about it. they did change how i felt about her , actually made me want her more. but i had always liked her so my feelings didn't really change , to be honest just really like the idea of her with pierced nipples , they really suit her personality and body type , there a perfect combination

[Opinion Owner]

here's the keyword it"bugs you" not her or anyone else, just you. and I think that's because-this is just my opinion, I can definitely be wrong, so please don't get upset. But it seems like you might be a little bit too obsessed with her, that you have become to take a small thing, like nipple piercing into a huge ordeal. look I understand where you're coming from, it's confusing as to why she a little different since she got them done. but also remember that it happened, and its time to move forward. I don't mean to offend you by anyway, but I didn't want to beat around the bush either.

[Asker]

true if i didn't know her and saw a girl at the bar with what looked like a nipple piercing , i'd be like she has her nipple pierced thats cool and not think much more about it. it obviously wouldn't be a big deal , think she made the whole thing worse by trying to hide it , she worked at a bar , she could of just casually mentioned she had done this to her gf's when i was around and then it wouldn't of been a secret , if she had mentioned during the summer she got her nipples pierced when at the bar , honestly no one there would of been offended and just though it was a cool thing she had done , i don't understand how it became a " secret " or how it turned into a big deal , guess your right everyone just wants to move on , who knows if she even still has the piercing , could of taken it out by now if she annoyed people knew about it or decided she didn't like having one

[Opinion Owner]

I know you can keep going forward. trust your gut. respect/love yourself, and everything will fall into place.
HAve a great 2020!

[Asker]

its one of those weird things , it may never make sense as to the why it occurred the way it did. and for her to do something out of character its even harder to understand. i always though a nipple piercing would suit her so well , if there was ever anyone around here who could pull that one off it was her , i don't understand why she decided to hide it from the world or why she got so upset that i knew , but either way its something that happened months ago now and it never should of turned into such a big deal , for her to suddenly have a body piercing

[Opinion Owner]

let it go... move forward.

[Gatman34]

Why are you making such a big deal out of it? Why do you even care so much just let it go man

[Asker]

i guess that its one of those things which annoyed me , i just never understood her behaviour , such as why she got one to begin with or why she cared so much that i might know she had one , i respect her right to privacy but once people around here knew she had one it wasn't really a secret anymore and i don't see why she couldn't just be open about the whole thing