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I have a situation that I really need a guy's advice on.

I'm at uni and I really like my lecturer (I'm in my 30s so no age issues). I know that he liked me. Let's call him John. He was making an effort to get to talk to me around the uni, he was often around where I was and he tried to flirt with me on several occasions etc. However, at the time he was doing all this this I was already liking someone else and wasn't sure if I liked John or not at that time.

The guy I liked was his friend and John knew about it. His friend used to flirt and be really friendly with me a while ago but stopped when John started to show that he was interested in me. I felt bad that his friend had stopped flirting with me as it felt like a rejection and things became awkward between myself and the other guy. I was also upset over some other personal health stuff too. I wasn't upset because I was really really into his friend but just because I liked him as a person and felt sad that the friendliness between us was lost and things were awkward. His friend had started doing stuff like sitting with his back to me and turning his head away from me which felt very hurtful.

John saw me upset and came to assume that it was something to do with his friend and I think he was left with the impression that I was cut up over his friend. We weren't directly verbally communicating at the time and I didn't have the opportunity to explain to him the actual reasons why I was upset. During this time I saw John but only around other people in the public areas, he tried to joke about it all and make funny jokes about how I could have fancied his friend when he was much more sexy than him etc.

At this time he was still making it clear he was interested. However I didn't feel right to just go from his friend straight to him. I didn't want John to feel like I was just going to him because his friend wasn't interested anymore. I was also still just feeling low because of my own personal st