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I am very wary of him because after my mom divorced him when I was 7 due to him being on drugs and abusing her. He stopped contacting us completely. I would hear my mom on the phone calling him, leaving him messages asking him to see us. He'd make promises then never show. Then I finally seen him again when I was 23. Then years later after that. Nothing ever consistent. Calls every once In a blue moon and barks orders like I'm a child stating ," I worry about you. As soon as you get off work go straight home."

Blah blah yet where was this concern years ago. Then he got mad at me for not wishing him a father's day. I haven't wished him a happy fathers day since I was 7. He hasn't been here. Then I addressed it he blamed my mom saying he didn't come around because she remarried after the divorce (she remarried 3 years later). And said he was homeless because of the divorce and blamed my grandma saying she was evil that's why she's dead now. But come on who would want their daughter to stay married to a man using drugs and abusing her? My mom divorced him because she said she found drugs in my stroller from him doing drugs and making deals. She said I could've gotten taken away if the police caught him.

These are things she did to him in the past. Are these good reasons for him and anyone to hate my mother as their future MIL?

- Suddenly excluded him for practicaclly the whole month of Dec... refusing to introduce him to friends; he felt insulted and hurt with that action

- Badmouth about him to others and defamed his character, tarnished his image/reputation

- Literally made my father and others believe for years that he was a manipulative player that took my innocence and somewhat of a pervert

- Literally kicked him out of the house, told him that I'm not available, making him return home, which is 1-2 hours far. Then lied to me and others by saying he never stops by to visit anymore. She kept that lie for over 8 years.

- Took me with her to our homecountry, where I didn't want to go. I had the option to stay and fight for my relationship but mom kept saying ''I gotta take you away from him anyhow''.

- Issued him an insincere apology over the phone while expecting him to bring gifts when he comes (so he can marry me, take me back to FL... and help her with a visa too) and still holding that dirty image of him, still keeping the lie that he never visited me

- Insulted him once on my b-day, call him a loser and even said ''when my daughter goes back to her country, she'll find a way better man than you'' with a mocking tone

- Laughing and bragging to others that she made him cry and imitating the way he cried; saying that a man that cries is weak and the worst

- When he called, she purposely would tell him to come over and visit our places (knowing very well he had little money and there is a slim chance we can be together) as if mocking him.

- Basically my mother wanted to keep me away from my happiness. She purposely did everything to tarnish his image. He obviously hated her for the longest and only recently forgave her not because of her but because he wants to be at peace with himself, not live with the hatred anymore.