Hey guys. I dated this incredible guy this past year & the first month was amazing. We would always plan to see each other, he was constantly taking initiative, affectionate, always wanted to see me. He constantly planned dates, etc. However, when the covid pandemic hit, we couldn't see each other for like 4 weeks. (When the world was stopped, etc.) We had only known each other a bit. We called over the phone, arranged what to do. We actually took a break for a week bc it was so hard.
When we finally returned to see each other, we sat on his front step & he goes, "Well, it's not like I'm going to invite you inside. And take you to my bedroom." Bc it had been too long. I was like? I just wanted to see him, not sleep with him. He was very reserved & I had missed him a lot.
After this for the rest of the year, he retreated into his natural "personality". Which was introverted, stoic, and workaholic. He was just a very inward-facing, workaholic guy. I was always asking him to do stuff but he wanted to work so always stayed in. He was a nice guy, we never got back to the same level of intimacy/affection. He never showed it to me again, bc his natural level was very low.
I'm just like.. how could that connection change so drastically? We went on to date for 8 more months, but it was really hard for me. I didn't fall in love with the same guy & was just really confused about what to do. I became very insecure all at once.
I know this happened this past year, but it's still causing me a lot of pain & not sure what to do. I need to know what to do for next time, or if this gut feeling is on point.
When we finally returned to see each other, we sat on his front step & he goes, "Well, it's not like I'm going to invite you inside. And take you to my bedroom." Bc it had been too long. I was like? I just wanted to see him, not sleep with him. He was very reserved & I had missed him a lot.
After this for the rest of the year, he retreated into his natural "personality". Which was introverted, stoic, and workaholic. He was just a very inward-facing, workaholic guy. I was always asking him to do stuff but he wanted to work so always stayed in. He was a nice guy, we never got back to the same level of intimacy/affection. He never showed it to me again, bc his natural level was very low.
I'm just like.. how could that connection change so drastically? We went on to date for 8 more months, but it was really hard for me. I didn't fall in love with the same guy & was just really confused about what to do. I became very insecure all at once.
I know this happened this past year, but it's still causing me a lot of pain & not sure what to do. I need to know what to do for next time, or if this gut feeling is on point.
