With LDR’s you need to assume that the other person can. ‘Cheat’. As it’s an LDR it’s not exactly cheating in the scheme of things, unless of course they are married etc and cheating on the other person with ‘you’ (general you).
I have had a couple and met a few of those I’ve had with, realistically online relationships are purely emotional ones and it’s there both sides need to agree some. Boundaries and realistic expectations.
You can have the very real situation where the other person meets someone in real and simply bins their online presence.
At some point in an LDR you agree to either meet up or not meet up, then you put in how that will happen, importantly if it’s simply a thought or is actually achievable.
me with a LDR with someone living in Australia and me in the UK, is on the scheme of it, not really an achievable. meet up, however I go to Australia in 2022, so that actually adds in a chance.
For your specific question. It could be a multitude of reasons, always have a back up method of contacting each other, just in case the other persons email is hacked, locked out, application you use is locked etc, or simply power outage or internet down for xx days.
if in the back of your mind you accept that you could simply be one of a number of girls, he is chatting to, online and in real, then that emotional slap you get will be lessened.
A simple email, saying you are concerned and then accept he will be in touch after xx days. Just make it clear in an email, how you feel and could they respond.
be polite and nothing about cheating etc, a bit of concern to if they are okay.
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I've never had a long distance thing, but I can't imagine the insecurity I would have. I wouldn't stoop to the same level as what is bothering you. be honest with him about your feelings. good luck!
Ok, this isn’t a relationship so he cannot be cheating on you.
If he doesn’t have a reason for his absences, he could simply be chatting to other people too.
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“Plan on meeting one day in person” doesn’t sound like a relationship, sexting maybe
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