Search Results: some guys can be so dirty

I’m going to try to sum this up as much as I can: I met this guy who’s a 2nd year law student on a dating site a couple months ago. He asked me on the first date, went well, I asked him for the second. Things were fine, he’d text me good morning almost every morning and check in throughout the day.

My issue stemmed from the fact that he hasn’t made an effort to see me in about a month but still texts me everyday (except one night a couple weeks ago, during a trip with his close friends, he was drunk and texted me that he wanted me there with him... turned into some dirty talk on both of our ends but we left it at that and didn’t bring up sex again)

Another issue is that when texting each other, I’d feel like I’m the one carrying the conversation. I believe relationships can’t be built on texts alone and honestly I’d rather FaceTime or call. I asked him to call me once, he said he would, but ended up not doing so.

After the second date, I felt like he was kinda pulling away. We’re both going into finals (I’m finishing my bachelor’s). My whole thing is, I get that law school is super busy. I know that especially around this time of the year, there’s not always time to hang out. I already pointed it out once when I felt he was pulling away and he apologized and explained what was going on with school.

I’m not sure why, but at some point last week, I had enough. He was days away from starting his finals and our conversations were turning into small talk sporadically. I just haven’t responded to him at all and it’s been days.

Part of me feels bad “ghosting” just because I know he’s been super stressed school and finals, and maybe I shouldn’t take this personally. The other part of me feels like he’s really not interested (I’ve felt this way for a while, we’re also both still active on the dating site) so it’s better for me to just walk away instead of waiting for him to do so. What do you think I should do?

As in is open to dating anyone to get to know them as a potential boyfriend or girlfriend but is very strict with sex itself. So the dating is really about getting to know each other as people as potential boyfriend/boyfriend not seeking out sexual satisfaction.

this is not a biographical question... I’m just wondering why MANY people are against dating around like it’s dirty or indicative of low moral lack of loyalty increased risk of cheating etc, when really dating should give you a cushier to get acquainted

I wonder as well if casual dating people wpuid stay far away from those who are not on a date to sex pipe line.

And I Get it sex is a way for some people to get acquainted and that is fine but I’m guessing those people don’t feel sick about casual dating.

Seems to be high correlation with date around and fuck or date exclusively and wait camps... I wonder how often they can mix it up.


I think if I was single, I’d date around a ton lije 2950s style date a diff guy on a diff day bit the date is not code for hook up. It’s literally go out in a date. I kinda really LIKE the idea of like booking dates as appointments lol... 🧐 but then I am hyperactive am no good with ambiguity and I do best with structure 😌 so this may be more a personality thjng than sayjng approach. I’m thinking of sanity not landing the right bloke, per se 😇

We know the vast majority of guys are fine with their girl wearing a little makeup ("to enhance her natural features", as the makeup industry has so often hammered into us, so as not to offend anyone, and to do everything they can to encourage more sales), and only some of you like a lot of makeup, or makeup that is very stylized and noticeable.

But people don't talk about hair products much. You'll probably mostly say, "Oh, I like natural." But do you really understand what goes into trying to achieve great hair style?
Y'all are getting used to seeing celebrities in movies and in interviews, and all the 'Insta' accounts which are highly, highly styled. It is achievable when you have a team of professionals at your service, and it's also a lot easier to create a temporary image that looks good online (with filters and retouching and 100 snaps to get just the right single image for post), but in real life, these looks don't feel so nice to the touch. (Hairspray, especially - even 'flex hold' tends to be the worst culprit for making it feel rather stiff... crunchy. Or sticky, or greasy, or just somewhat dirty feeling (even though it's not dirty; it's all about the products on it.) Let's say you can't have both. How much does feeling product in her hair bother you?