Search Results: torn between two men

I have no idea how to broach the subject with him, or what it will mean for me if he turns me down. I know I have to tread lightly. Any advice would be helpful.



Do you find him as sexy as I do or am I just caught up in some "daddy" fantasy? (I attached his picture to this posting.)

Okay, don't flame me for this. I am 23 and started a job with an engineering firm about six months ago. My position isn't bad and the company is great. My boss is a demanding person, he is around 50, I would guess, but has been fair and helpful. Sometime after starting in the job, I began to think about him at night. He is so much older than me that I really didn't think much about it.

As time has gone on, however, I have found myself noticing him more and more. He commands a lot of authority at work but has always treated me well. He has never come on to me or given me any indication that he is interested but I can't help thinking of him. He has a really nice body and he must go to the gym a lot because I don't know many people my age that have bodies as nice as his. I find it harder and harder to get him out of my head.

I am trying to figure out if I should ask him out or see if he would like to have a drink after work. I don't want to risk my job. I am also torn about the age difference between the two of us. I am only 23. Have any of you ever found an older man attractive?

I am in love with one man that I have had an off and on again relationship. We have never been a couple but when we do go out he makes sure everyone knows I am "his" girl. We have so much fun together and we both admit that. He just can't commit. Each time we get too close he pulls away. We stop talking and then the process starts over again. It is driving me crazy and after the last time I told him it is too hard on my heart and that I will start dating other people again. He holds my heart but hasn't really done anything to keep someone else from steeling it away. Ok then there is this man I recently met. He is so very sweet. Calls me his princess. And does just about everything to make me happy. Ideally he is everything I hope to have in a relationship with someone. He is helpful around the house. Says just about everything perfect for me. The only thing is I don't have strong feelings for him. He is winning me over with kindness and gifts and my vulnerable position of being broke. He would provide for everything. But there are little things that drive me up the wall a little. He is very clingy. Wants to kiss all the time. I am not a huge kisser. He is more business like. An engineer making big bucks and the other man (the man I have very strong feelings for that won't commit) is the poor construction type. My heart wants the poor construction type but half of me feels like he will just end up hurting me time and time again with all the pulling away he does. The business like man I know will never hurt me and if he did he would do anything to make it up but I don't have feelings for him. Not yet anyways. Here is the kicker. Just as I started seeing this other man (the engineer) the man that I have feelings for comes back into the picture. I need to make a decision quick. the funny thing is now I keep seeing the poor construction workers name everywhere. His name isn't popular either.