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I have recently gotten my first boyfriend. And I'll admit, I'm very girly. pretty shy as well, and I also HATE being in control. My boyfriend is very much a mans man though, and likes being in charge. But I keep thinking that there seems to be more on him then on me, and I don't know how to make it fair.
like according to him, it's the mans job to pay for things. (though sometimes I do manage to like sneak it in so I pay), but it's also usually on him to decide what we do when we hang out, and when he picks me up from work sometimes he comes inside the building to get me. He did mention that it's partially because if he doesn't he knows he'll look like a jackass, however if that were switched and I picked him up, I could wait in the car and no one would bat an eye.
It's even to the point where whenever I start crying or something or am upset about anything, he gets mad. But he doesn't cry! Like I RARELY get angry, when I get upset it's right to sadness and all that. But no, he just gets mad. He said guys are expected to be tough.
Also he calls me "babe" a lot. I rarely call him by a pet name, but when I pointed it out he just kinda went "it's part of being a guy" And I was like "how is that fair?" kinda thing. But I've got other examples.

Is more expected of men in relationships than is expected of women?