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My mom has very short hair, and it's balding as we speak but she doesn't care. She just puts a wig over it. And calls it a day. When I was ten I stopped getting perms. She told me that kinky hair is ugly and straight hair is better. And kept trying to perm my hair until my older sister told her to stop. And told her to stop saying bad things about my hair. So my mom says I can't style my hair anymore because my hair is still kinky and ugly. So I let her style my hair for a week after my weave came out. So after she styled my hair for a week- my hair is very rough had I can't even get combs though it. I know she's my mom but after she styles my hair it becomes harder, comb can't go though it. When I did my hair I could get a comb though it but after she does for a week it seems impossible. my older sister told me to not let mom touch my hair anymore. Or just said don't let your mom near it. She says it needs to be washed but my mom says I'm not allowed to wash my hair at all. Even if it gets a little wet it's bad. She says my hair needs to go a few months without water. And I can't style my hair. So I don't know what to do but I don't want my mom touching my hair anymore. I just feel like my hair would be better off if she never touched it. But she says I style my hair poorly and says at the same time says it'll look bad either way because kinky hair is ugly. She stopped talking like this because my older sister came back but I still I'm not allowed to wash my hair but my older sister wants it to be washed. I don't know what to do..

I find that white people get indignant at the thought of this. Mainly white men.

I guess you *feel* it more if you're not white:
-Growing up and having relatives or friends actually pour honey into their dark brown eyes in hopes of making them lighter.
-Having friends buy skin lightening soaps, creams, lotions, etc.
-Seeing friends straighten their beautiful afros or extremely textured/kinky hair.
-Being told "you're pretty for a Mexican/black/Asian girl."
-Hearing people say "oh to find a white girl with a black girl booty".
-Seeing petty fights with the "#teamlightskin vs #teamdarkskin".
-Attractive black girls always being asked if they're mixed.
-Relatives being happy you're with a white person because they can pass "nice hair, nice eyes" or other "good genes".
-Having trends idolized if taken by white women yet shaming non white women for the same features/styles. (I'm on the fence on this one).
-Not seeing "dark" women/men in the media. (when they do show black/Latinos/Asians, they tend to be "white girls dipped in chocolate" or "whitewashed")
-In nearly all novelas, it's mostly white or very light skin Latinos. There's nothing wrong with that, but that's not the majority of Latinos. We can be very dark, tan, or very white. Also, when there are dark skin actors, they are often depicted as poor, unwanted, "ugly", mean, the antagonists.

This isn't meant to offend. It is becoming less and less of an issue, but it's still there. I know some of y'all will just roll your eyes at the mere title of this and say "shut up stupid ugly dark skin girl, face it. White women are superior". Or something like that. But I'd still like to hear y'alls thoughts. And non whites any similar experiences?

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