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So my current boyfriend and I dated for 8 months, then broke up for 3 months. During that time I got a new boyfriend and he had a rebound. Yet we got back together.

Since then I told him I wasn’t comfortable with him being close to the girl he slept with while we were broken up because she wanted a relationship from him when he did not, she blocked me on all social media and she just shit talks me to anyone who’d listen. While they had their thing, she also demanded he never speak to me and tried to force him to delete pictures of me and throw my stuff away. He kept everything, but still didn’t speak to me until he went back home and was away from her. I’ve never met the girl but I think it’s childish she hates me just because I’m dating my boyfriend. He stopped talking to her and focused on me.

My boyfriend said he liked her as a person and felt like a dick for what happened with her, so he eventually wanted to talk to her again. I told him to give us time because our relationship is still kind of rocky and needs stability and this would cause issues. Two days ago, I brought up again how the idea of them being close friends makes me uncomfortable and disrespected. Then he admits that he’s been talking to her on occasion for two weeks now and sometimes they even FaceTime. I was heartbroken. I asked him maybe 6 days ago if they were talking and he lied. He’s been hiding the truth from me this whole time while I thought things were great. He lied to me so easily.

He says he didn’t want to upset me by telling me they were talking again and was trying to “protect” me. He says he is very sorry and would never do it again. He always avoids conflict and let’s it get out of hand.

Ultimately, I feel betrayed, I don’t trust him like I used to and I feel like she is more important to him than I am. Should I break up with him or not?

I love my boyfriend so much however his negatives outweighs the positive

Positive
- He loves to kiss and hugs me tight every night
- He is a good looking man
- He can cook well
- He is good in sex
- He picks me up from work (only sometimes) when we stayed together - He says he is serious about me and wants to marry me
- people says we are both good looking and a good match
Negative
- I caught him in the house sleeping with just some random Stanger girl who he just met in online dating site
- I caught him having so many condoms and lubricants. I wonder where he use it when he never use them to them. We always have unprotected sex. He said it's just a gift from his friend.
- Some chatted me about him. It looks like she is spying and only to find out that sometimes my boyfriend sleeps at her condo in another city. She said she is just trying to help him because he is homeless and they are only friends. I don't know if she is telling the truth? - I caught him chatting many girls. I wonder who are they. He said just investors. He wants to build business but don't have money - he ask me to loan 1m but I don't want and he insult me saying useless
- he ask money and food from me if I can't give he gets mad at me and insult a lot
- he gets mad when I hold his hand in public
- He rejected me many times in sex