Search Results: emotional connection

Maybe they’re meant to be together?

I feel hurt after my cousin secretly started talking to a guy I confided in her about then tried to gaslight me about it and really started struggling with my mental health… I haven’t really dated in my 20s and he was my first real emotional connection.. I really wanted to be with him and we did talk and go out.. he ultimately ended up rejecting me and he just treated me like I was nothing.. I felt really depressed and I found out he was also attracted to trans women.. I have a trans cousin I was close with and I talked to her about it and showed her his @ twitter to see if he there were signs I missed… I just knew something was up awhile after and it sent me to pieces.. like just feeling betrayed and rejected.. I feel small.. and I feel like when I try to talk about it I’m dismissed and they’re encouraged..

I talked to my therapist and she says “is it so bad if they were together?” Or other people saying “so, let them fall in love”

So it’s just been a blow to my self worth entirely and right now I just kind of started doing Onlyfans and other stuff to feel somewhat good about myself and not think about never being chosen by any man.. and wanting to get work done.

Can narcissistic abuse affect you even if the connection only lasted three weeks? Is it normal to still feel impacted by how someone treated you?

I experienced every stage of narcissistic abuse with him — the idealization (studying me, learning my trauma, saying all the right things), the devaluation (disrespect, throwing my vulnerabilities back in my face), and the discard (ghosting me and acting like I never existed). This wasn’t a normal “we talked and it didn’t work out” situation. It was deeply damaging. My mistake was being open about my mental and emotional wellbeing from the start, and he still chose to proceed anyway.

Or is this a normal dating thing? I’m so curious to know