Narcissistic behavior or regular rejection (jerkish)?

[Anonymous]

Can narcissistic abuse affect you even if the connection only lasted three weeks? Is it normal to still feel impacted by how someone treated you?

I experienced every stage of narcissistic abuse with him — the idealization (studying me, learning my trauma, saying all the right things), the devaluation (disrespect, throwing my vulnerabilities back in my face), and the discard (ghosting me and acting like I never existed). This wasn’t a normal “we talked and it didn’t work out” situation. It was deeply damaging. My mistake was being open about my mental and emotional wellbeing from the start, and he still chose to proceed anyway.

Or is this a normal dating thing? I’m so curious to know

Regular rejection

Narcissistic tendencies

[MidnightRivers]

It still affects me to be honest, after 5 years of moving on

[Asker]

Same…. After 3 years for me

[MidnightRivers]

It's something that has a long lasting affect but has shaped me stronger haha

[Asker]

Same here… I’m learning the true definition of strength

[MidnightRivers]

It makes you realise how cruel people really can be. I read that those who are the kindest are so because they know how far they can go if they wanted to be cruel but choose not to

[Anonymous]

You wrote that "[you have] experienced every stage of narcissistic abuse with him", so why are you asking "Narcissistic behavior or regular rejection (jerkish)?"?

[Asker]

Because I couldn’t distinguish the 2.. I just wanted opinions on it

[Ghys30]

If he made you go through that in just 3 weeks , you dodged a bullet believe it or not and yes you can be effected by it even if it didn’t last long.

[Anonymous]

Narcissism is a psychiatric diagnosis and is not a term to be thrown around by laymen.

[Asker]

I said narcissistic tendencies

[Anonymous]

I've dealt with similar behavior. It sucks.