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I deleted my Snapchat because I do not want to face any scandals regarding me and my online (never-irl) female friend that I've met for almost a year.

She's living in Kansas and I'm living in California. She found out I saved 152 pictures of her, mostly edited ones on my phone, and she was "nauseous" and found it "absolutely disgusting" that I would say things such as "men are above women" and "'no/maybe' means yes," and placed the whole blame on the Bible and my stepfather. I may face serious consequences, who knows.

But even though my mother and even my father (and possibly some of his relatives) have received DMs on Instagram regarding my aggressively inappropriate, prejudiced behavior, I have yet to receive a response from any of my family.

Ihave a feeling that my mother is either going to enable the behavior that I have, giving an "autism" excuse to my friends (and ex-friends, who blocked me), or that she will text me about my behavior when her husband isn't around (her husband is no joke, man).

However, my mother (who is very religiously conservative, with a few exceptions) did remind me to keep my shirt on when communicating on Snapchat. I told her we're mostly adults in the group chat and that Barack Obama was seen shirtless, but she responded with the obvious fact that they aren't her children.

Honestly I'm going to be so over [her] and I think that this is for the better.. because what's the point of making friends with a girl that doesn't even like me back.. she's always flirting with black guys/semi-white Jewish guys that have trucks and an extremely high social life... girls these days are so materialistic and many 18-25 year old girls are nonvirgins... I just can't handle this life anymore. If a beautiful girl cannot accept a white tradhusband then she doesn't deserve to live in America... she can leave our land. I got blocked by a lot of friends.

This guy who has a girlfriend exposed my camera roll that I masturbated to, of different girls.

I could pontificate on this question endlessly, but someone else has said it succinctly and well:

"Here’s the truth: if being your kids’ friend was enough to raise them successfully, we would all probably parent that way. But our job is way more complicated than that. Children and teens really crave boundaries, limits and structure. At the same time, they also need some healthy separation from us as they go through adolescence and develop into adults. Our role as parents is really to teach, coach and give our kids consequences when they misbehave. If you slip into that friend role, however, it’s virtually impossible to lay down the law and set limits on your child’s inappropriate behavior."

https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/why-you-cant-be-your-childs-friend/

But. . . maybe you think those arguments are nonsense. What do you think? Do you want to be your child's best friend?

In my opinion, every single one of these laws need to be updated in accordance to scientific facts, and not to be influenced by stigmas, which are arbitrary.

In my psychology course, we learned about the prefrontal cortex and executive functioning. We learned that the brain isn't fully developed until about 25 years of age, which significantly affects our ability in regards to decision making.

The age of "18" is an arbitrary figure, and science shows there isn't much of a difference between the 16 and 18 year old brain.

Then why do laws still permit vulnerable 18yr olds to such possible dangers? In my opinion, with the old logic, they might as well sell cigarettes, lower age consent, and draft 15 and 16 year olds to war. That just doesn't make sense. INCREASE it.

An excerpt from the U.S. Department of Health & Human Services:

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The prefrontal cortex, the part of the frontal lobes lying just behind the forehead, is often referred to as the “CEO of the brain.” This brain region is responsible for cognitive analysis and abstract thought, and the moderation of “correct” behavior in social situations. The prefrontal cortex takes in information from all of the senses and orchestrates thoughts and actions to achieve specific goals.

The prefrontal cortex is one of the last regions of the brain to reach maturation. This delay may help to explain why some adolescents act the way they do. The so-called “executive functions” of the human prefrontal cortex include:

+ Focusing attention

+ Organizing thoughts and problem solving

+ Foreseeing and weighing possible consequences of behavior

+ Considering the future and making predictions

+ Forming strategies and planning

+ Ability to balance short-term rewards with long term goals

+ Shifting/adjusting behavior when situations change

+ Impulse control and delaying gratification

+ Modulation of intense emotions

+ Inhibiting inappropriate behavior and initiating appropriate behavior

+ Simultaneously considering multiple streams of information when faced with complex and challenging information

This brain region gives an individual the capacity to exercise “good judgment” when presented with difficult life situations. Brain research indicating that brain development is not complete until near the age of 25, refers specifically to the development of the prefrontal cortex.

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