Polls: Dating

You know those guys who seem quite popular with women and girls just fawn over him. And yet you manage to be the one to get him. Does this have any bearing on how you feel about him? That you managed to get a guy desired by a lot of women?

here's a study that basically confirms this:

https://www.psypost.org/2016/12/study-women-find-men-desirable-desired-women-46677

Study: Women find men who are desired by other women to be more desirable

The study of 245 female college students suggests that women use the presence of a romantic partner to infer that a man possesses unobservable, positive traits.

The female participants found men more desirable when they were shown with an attractive partner compared to when the men were shown alone. Men shown with an attractive partner tended to be viewed as more intelligent, trustworthy, humorous, wealthy, romantic, goal driven, adventurous, generous, and attentive to the needs of others.

"you are the.. muhst handsum mahn I'b ever seehn..., I can see so well..."

"I luuuhhhhvv you soojn much..."

Shouldn't you be dating more drunk women? whut could goh wrong?

If after a first date you got a kiss on the cheek, would you think they like you or just want to be friends?

This is what I want for the future:

I want my partner to be dependent on me

I want to be the man that takes care of the whole family.
I want to have a wife that just loves and cares for me and supports me with odd jobs and helping me from time to time.

I like the idea of working hard to give my woman and kids the best life and being loyal to them. That’s how I show love.

The issue is most people want change... but won't take the disciplined steps to make the change. Having an accountability partner/coach is a way to address that.

I won't mention the price, the price is based upon the support provided and duration. Lets assume it's a nominal fee for most groups.

The group would meet under guidance of coach, possibly one on one at times, for support, direction, encouragement. Work is required by you, minimal time.

Conceptually this is no different than a gym personal trainer, a dating coach, bike riding club, etc.. but it's online.

Some example categories for groups:

* Improving men's dating skills (Dating coach)

* Getting exercising

* Improving your aching back

* Improving your relationship

* Journaling

* Song writing and publishing

* Book publishing.

* Trauma recovery

* Making $ online

... other...

*** Note some of these types of groups have liability risk, possible licensing requirements in different areas, making them more complex to operate and costly.

I realize that i have one. especially when it comes to dating i tend to fear the other person doesn't care about me enough and will eventually leave me. which causes me to act irrationally and anxiously. and that tends to drive the other person away from me.

Yeah this picture here sums it all up well for me.

Can anyone else relate to this?

There have been a few times in my life where I dated women who had “school girl” crushes on me. However they later quickly bailed when they got to know the real me.

I am not a psycho or anything. I am definitely a deep thinker and can be sensitive about things. I got some depression but I’ve always been independent both financially and emotionally. I get support from friends but I know it’s ultimately up to me to fix my own issues.

Anyway I’ve improved on how showed my lesser sides to women as I have gotten older. Gotten better at being careful about what emotions I will show women vs. which ones I’ll keep a lid on. Especially when it comes to insecurities

But I can remember dating a few women in the past who were initially head over heels for me because of the fantasy they had in their head about who they thought I was. Sure it felt good initially. They often pursued me and made dating easy. No problem getting laid in that scenario (usually their idea). They also would act seemingly supportive and tolerant of my personality. But this always ended bad. Very bad. One girl ghosted me after dating for 9 f*cking months. And all while I was dating I was aware they might just be daydreaming only to do a 180 later when their “emotions” changed.

But there have been a few women I pursued just to discover issues with them later that was less than pleasant. It was a turn off but I never did a quick 180 immediately just because they didn’t match up to the original image I had of them in my head.

The question arose whether guys would prefer to date a woman younger or older, I expressed my opinion, and some whippersnapper" called me "ignorant." So please tell me the answer, guys and girls! Would you prefer to date someone younger or older? (Please assume that the younger person has at least reached the age of consent.)