If a guy you just started seeing slept with another girl, would you continue to see him?

[Anonymous]

You two aren’t exclusive and haven’t had the relationship talk but you find out that while you two were getting to know each other and in the initial dating phase he slept with another girl

I would continue regardless of how I felt about him

I would continue only if I really liked him and see a future

I wouldn’t continue even if I really liked him

[GreekLorrd]

Ultimately, the decision to continue seeing him or not is up to you and depends on your personal values and boundaries. Some people may be able to move past this and continue seeing the person, while others may not be comfortable with it and choose to end things. It may be helpful to have a conversation with the person to clarify expectations and see if you both have the same level of interest in pursuing a more serious relationship.

[Asker]

I think so too. The guy has every right to sleep with another girl since they aren’t exclusive. And the girl has every right to move on to another guy becuase he slept with another girl.

[GreekLorrd]

Yes, you are correct. In a situation where the two people are not exclusive and haven't had the relationship talk yet, it's up to both individuals to decide what they want and what their boundaries are. If one person decides to sleep with someone else, it's not necessarily a betrayal, but it may be a sign that they are not ready for a committed relationship with the other person. Likewise, if the other person feels uncomfortable or betrayed by this, they have every right to move on and find someone who is more in line with their values and expectations. It's important for both parties to communicate openly and honestly to avoid misunderstandings and hurt feelings.

[chicosuave]

umm you are too insecure. you are not even in a relationship and you feel hurt when he hangs with other girls. he can date as many girls as he wants if he is single. i bet you would say the same thing.

[Asker]

It’s not a matter of being insecure. I never said guys can’t do it. They have every right to and we have every right to not want to be with those guys. If these types of guys want girls who sleep around I’m not going to stop them just like he can’t stop us from wanting guys who are committed. Just don’t be left wondering where are all the good girls because you spent years trying to be with as many girls as possible.

[Asker]

*wasted years in their 20s

[Valkyria]

Considering I like him, and now there are thoughts and images in my head of him sleeping with someone else, it would really crush me. While it isn't cheating, it psychologically feels like that if you are in love. It would put me off, and why would I want to date a guy that clearly has flings and is possibly a playboy? And what even implies that I would be their partner and not just like that girl?

[Asker]

True and better to not catch too much feelings in the beginning and be sad than be heartbroken and cheated on

[RavVid]

I am inverting the question on genders of course. I think you should come into a relationship with clean hands so I wouldn't accept it.

[Anonymous]

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