I feel like my boss is targeting me what should I do?

[candycane]

She doesn't inform me about any updates and she doesn't share any guidance with me. I learn it by chance from my coworkers. And when I cannot do things probably she yells and tells me why I am a slow learner. My coworkers think that she hates me. Is there anything I can do about it?

[Static_In_The_Attic]

For starters you’re going to have to SPEAK UP & if it were within my power to speak up for you I absolutely would & being that I’m unable to do so you’re just going to have to put on your big girl panties & get to the bottom of this bucket of clams.

As for you you are going to have a little meeting with your boss & you are going to have to ask & tell your boss in a professional manner & hopefully with Human Resources or someone present the following.

1. Do you have a problem with me? Because I’m under the understanding that you hate me & you are setting me up to fail which in return is setting our company to fail as well.

2. Do you believe in team work? Because I’m a strong believer in team work & if I learned anything I learned when it comes to a team there is no I in team & all I have to ask is Why aren’t you including me in this team? You yell at me, you tell me I’m a slow learner you & don’t give me any updates or guidance or additional resources to succeed. Help me help you & together we can succeed if we work as a team.

Depending on how the meeting goes you can always ask the following.

3. Should I starting looking for new employment?

Stay calm, don’t raise your voice & try to talk to get in a professional manner.

[SallyTho87]

Have you tried confronting your boss? Asking why you are being excluded about essential updates, changes, etc? I would request a reason for being left out of updates and if you are seeking guidance from your boss, as you SHOULD be doing, I would also inquire why.

If she cannot provide you an answer or a reason, you can approach your HR representative of your company and express your concerns, as your boss is withholding information from you, neglecting to assist you in learning or providing guidance on your job / task, and the misinformation (or lack of information) being relayed to everyone else BUT you, makes you more stressed and feel alienated in the workplace.
Bullying is a serious issue. I would recommend confronting your boss first, asking why. Don't be rude about it, but be stern, stand your ground, and use concrete examples of what you are saying (like if your boss sent an update by email to all other employees, but you) or if your boss addresses your "slow learning" I would confront her and inform the guidance YOU have requested from HER, seems to continuously be pushed aside, and you cannot grasp something you do not know if SHE has a responsibility to teach you.

Keep documented record too, in a personal notebook (not on the work computer) and jot down each time this happens going forward. This way you can have evidence and support when you address your HR representative.
Please remember, being treated like that is NOT okay ever, in the workplace.

[Anonymous]

Report her. Anyone that undermines your ability to do your own job should be reported. Document everything at this point.

[Anonymous]

Well first of all you have no real evidence. What your friend thinks is irrelevant. You need to get some solid evidence. This is the problem w a lot of women. They “ feel” a certain way when in reality it’s not true. Just like the whole choosing between being in the woods w a bear or w a man who’s a stranger. Sure I get some women have been hurt by men, but to say they think pretty much every man on the face of this earth would hurt them is nonsense. That’s how they feel, not reality. Just the same as in your situation. First of all does your boss update everyone else? Does she guide everyone else too? Do you have co-workers who are willing to testify to what you’re accusing her off should you go to her supervisor, HR, etc? Maybe ask to talk to her first before going above her. Depending on what her reputation is like there they may take her side. You might have to consider finding a new job.

[RavVid]

Not a great deal sadly unless you can make friends with her.

You could go the HR route but it is unlikely to help I'm afraid.

It is best to look for a new job. Sadly intra-female competition centers on isolating threats (this possibly you) from the rest of the group (colleagues). It has always been this way and is not gong to change.

[Zbrody1997]

Take account and confront your boss over text or email or even record conversations for hr and possibly a lawsuit since that is illegal and could be considered retaliation depending on the events that lead to it however keep records.

[SotiCoto]

Does she has someone higher up you can report her to? If so, do that.

If not... tell her to go fuck herself and quit. She is making it a toxic working environment.

[JacobJordan]

Record her, quit, tell her boss, tell hr, etc

[Anonymous]

Leave the job and find some better company with better HR to work with

[lorenzomichael]

Tell her to step off. And then tell her to go fuck herself.

[Anonymous]

I think it's time for some extra-strength laxatives in her coffee or a dead fish hidden in her office.

[LiamS95]

Speak to HR about her.

[MattyIce_IceBaby]

Voice your concerns!

[KrakenAttackin]

Isn't it great working for a woman.

[thisAppIsGarbage]

Find another job ASAP