So he said he’s not mad I slept with someone else but keeps bringing up why?

[sd1223]

The guy he’s talking about ended up being a rebound because I was so hurt that he started seeing and being intimate with someone else. We weren’t exclusive and he would tell me he wouldn’t be mad if I talked to other guys like he wanted me to. I ended up doing just that and hooking up with the guy and he won’t let me hear the end of it, it comes up from time to time. Once guys find out you slept with someone else is that something that devastates them and they can’t forget it? I just don’t understand why he’ll bring it up. He’s not mad he says but it clearly must bother him, why I don’t know. Help me understand guys!

[DeltaRecon]

Because he loves you and wants to be with you. He is just scared he isn't enough for you and will still keep sleeping and being with other guys. Sit down and tell him that if he wants you to be only for him, he needs to put a ring on your finger and only be devoted to each other.

[sd1223]

It’s interesting you say that because he claims to not feel that way about me but this all happened almost a year ago and I don’t even talk to the guy anymore. I’m really confused. He’ll say talk to other guys because it won’t happen between us again and when I do he got bothered by it.

[sd1223]

He did the same thing, he slept with someone else as well.

[DeltaRecon]

You gotta either tell him to make a commitment if he wants one or just stop talking to him and move on. You obviously still got feelings. So tell him how you feel and if he doesn't feel the same then you gotta move on.

[sd1223]

This man here is a bit confusing. He says one thing, says another thing, does another thing so at this point I just don’t know. I know the very last time we were intimate, he was saying stuff like is he my king, who I do love more him or his friend down there, etc. I remember the first time we’d been intimate in almost a year back in March he said he feels for me but when I asked him about it he said he didn’t remember saying it or that maybe I misheard him. I didn’t I heard it clear as day.

[Berethor]

Guys don't like hos, it's biological, guys tend to be territorial, it just how it is.

[sd1223]

Ok makes sense. I’m not a hoe though. I mean I didn’t think that’s what we were going to be doing but stuff happens. He just brings it up like I cheated on him or something. It’s fine for him to sleep with someone else but not me?

[Berethor]

A man is like a key, a woman is like a lock, that's why it more fine for him to do that.

[Anonymous]

It's not even worth explaining because he's a hypocrite. He's holding you to standards that he doesn't even hold himself to. Fuck that, I'd be out

[sd1223]

But why does it even bother him if he doesn’t feel that way about me so he says?

[Opinion Owner]

Because he has the communication skills of a 14 year old girl.

[sd1223]

Well clearly he doesn’t have the best communication skills you’re right but I don’t understand guys. You tell a girl you’re seeing someone, you’ve slept with another girl, the girl moves on and does the same thing and then you’re bothered by it? I don’t get you guys on that. So it’s fine for a guy to do that but when a girl sleeps with someone else they never forget it?

[Opinion Owner]

No. You just dated a confusing mess of a man. Unfortunately there's a lot of them. For me, dating starts to get serious when sex is involved. I've gone on dates with different women within a couple days of each other, but personally if I'm at the point where we are having sex than anyone else I might be talking to has already fallen by the wayside, or is about to. I actually had a date with someone else a couple days after I asked out my current girlfriend and she was seeing someone else at the time too. Idc what happened before we were official though because there was no commitment. I've never really even asked, she's just told me some stuff over the years

[sd1223]

Interesting you say that. Because he told me he doesn’t have a girlfriend and the girl he was on the phone with he didn’t do anything with. He’s never lied to me before that I know of. But like someone else I told about the situation, she said that he doesn’t care about the other girl because at the end of the day I’m who he wants to be intimate with and what not. Like you said any girl that you were talking to fell by the way side or was going to.

[Opinion Owner]

Whoa whoa whoa. You said he slept with someone... he was just on the phone with someone?

[sd1223]

Ok so last year he told me that he was seeing someone and I asked if that meant hang out or slept with and he said both. The girl on the phone from me seeing him recently he said he hasn’t done anything with so I’m assuming it’s more than one he’s talking to.

[Opinion Owner]

Are you exclusive?

[sd1223]

No we aren’t and as far as I know he isn’t with anyone else either; when he got a girlfriend before he cut me off so I know that’s not the case rn

[Opinion Owner]

Oof.

[sd1223]

What’s wrong?

[Anonymous]

I am sure you slept with many guys. I bet you walk like you rode a horse without a saddle

[sd1223]

Ummm no actually just two that’s it