Guy doesn’t let me sleep over. Is it because he snores so horribly he is embarrassed for me to sleep over?

[Anonymous]

So this guy and I have been seeing each other for awhile, sex included. It’s all going well but he doesn’t let me sleep over. I haven’t really pushed hard though. He just tells me it isn’t his style and he likes it. But tonight after we had sex he held on to me and passed out under a minute. After he fell asleep he started snoring right away. Like I thought I had heard bad snoring... but he snores SO LOUDLY and BADLY I have never heard a worse snorer in my life (even worse than my parents and grandparents). There was a moment I thought he was struggling to even breathe because his body was quivering before he let out a huge snore. Do you think this is the reason he won’t let me sleep over? He eventually woke up and asked if I was ok to leave so I left but like... it makes me wonder why?

[laura123iu]

haha maybe he's afraid that if you sleep over he'll catch feelings or you will, are you guys boyfriend and girlfriend?

[laura123iu]

well if u aren't he doesn't think u should stay over cause he prob only sees u as a friends with benefits, but ask him and be straight out with him

[Asker]

We have a weird thing going on where we didn’t see each other for months because he moved but recently moved back so he wanted to see me again. We hit it off again and this happened the first night... so confused lol

[laura123iu]

aren't you afraid he's sleeping around with other girls, i would die if i didn't have the exclusivity. but yeah u need to communicate w him

[Anonymous]

Yeah I snore. It makes me very very insecure.
It seems like a very legit reason for someone to leave though. To be with a snorer means they have to endure the loud snores every night, causing inadequate sleep which can lead to bad mood.
Maybe you can ask him to see a doctor for sleep apnea?

[slatyb]

Struggling to breathe? It sounds like he has sleep apnea. He should see a doctor about that.

[Asker]

Yeah there was a few seconds where his body was struggling and then suddenly it went through and he breathed and snored very loudly

[RHK36]

Maybe insecurities, but probably because he doesn't want it getting serious.

[Asker]

I’ve read online snoring can be a dealbreaker for some

[Anonymous]

You need to ask him why he won’t let you sleep over not complete strangers on the web who don’t know but rather just speculate

[Asker]

If he’s insecure about his snoring though I don’t think he’d just tell me that...

[SmilesAintAgirl14]

snore louder, intimidate him.