Polls: Dating

This is what I want for the future:

I want my partner to be dependent on me

I want to be the man that takes care of the whole family.
I want to have a wife that just loves and cares for me and supports me with odd jobs and helping me from time to time.

I like the idea of working hard to give my woman and kids the best life and being loyal to them. That’s how I show love.

The issue is most people want change... but won't take the disciplined steps to make the change. Having an accountability partner/coach is a way to address that.

I won't mention the price, the price is based upon the support provided and duration. Lets assume it's a nominal fee for most groups.

The group would meet under guidance of coach, possibly one on one at times, for support, direction, encouragement. Work is required by you, minimal time.

Conceptually this is no different than a gym personal trainer, a dating coach, bike riding club, etc.. but it's online.

Some example categories for groups:

* Improving men's dating skills (Dating coach)

* Getting exercising

* Improving your aching back

* Improving your relationship

* Journaling

* Song writing and publishing

* Book publishing.

* Trauma recovery

* Making $ online

... other...

*** Note some of these types of groups have liability risk, possible licensing requirements in different areas, making them more complex to operate and costly.

I realize that i have one. especially when it comes to dating i tend to fear the other person doesn't care about me enough and will eventually leave me. which causes me to act irrationally and anxiously. and that tends to drive the other person away from me.

Yeah this picture here sums it all up well for me.

Can anyone else relate to this?

There have been a few times in my life where I dated women who had “school girl” crushes on me. However they later quickly bailed when they got to know the real me.

I am not a psycho or anything. I am definitely a deep thinker and can be sensitive about things. I got some depression but I’ve always been independent both financially and emotionally. I get support from friends but I know it’s ultimately up to me to fix my own issues.

Anyway I’ve improved on how showed my lesser sides to women as I have gotten older. Gotten better at being careful about what emotions I will show women vs. which ones I’ll keep a lid on. Especially when it comes to insecurities

But I can remember dating a few women in the past who were initially head over heels for me because of the fantasy they had in their head about who they thought I was. Sure it felt good initially. They often pursued me and made dating easy. No problem getting laid in that scenario (usually their idea). They also would act seemingly supportive and tolerant of my personality. But this always ended bad. Very bad. One girl ghosted me after dating for 9 f*cking months. And all while I was dating I was aware they might just be daydreaming only to do a 180 later when their “emotions” changed.

But there have been a few women I pursued just to discover issues with them later that was less than pleasant. It was a turn off but I never did a quick 180 immediately just because they didn’t match up to the original image I had of them in my head.

The question arose whether guys would prefer to date a woman younger or older, I expressed my opinion, and some whippersnapper" called me "ignorant." So please tell me the answer, guys and girls! Would you prefer to date someone younger or older? (Please assume that the younger person has at least reached the age of consent.)

I mean where the person has committed a violent crime. Say why you would or why you would not in the comments section.

I have a job and a good amount of money. I just don't know where I want to live yet... but when the living situation question comes up this definitely turns off more women than it doesn't... So it's clearly a problem. I mean I plan on changing things in the next few months, but I am just figuring out what.