Is it rude (as a woman) to insist to pay for my meal on a first date?

[Anonymous]

Yes

No

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I meant to insist for me to pay for my own meal 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

[Guy13]

Whatever floats your boat but I am a traditionalist so it would surprise me as I never have that experience. It would be fine.

[shortster]

It is generally expected that the person who invited out pays. Unless spoken about beforehand. I have yet to go out with someone who insisted on paying for themselves on a first date. Most have offered to pay, but when I say that I don't mind and that I invited them out, they let me pay. I don't think that it is overly rude to insist; maybe just a little tacky to do after the check arrives.

[Daniela1982]

True, it should be discussed beforehand. Hmm, maybe we need a start-up dating site called Dutch Treat Treats. That way everyone knows they pay their own way. I bet 50% of the women would not use the site though.

[Daniela1982]

Some women act so entitled. Of course if you give him sex you might be even. Although it would make you a Ho! Prostitute - a woman who gives sex for monetary value. (in this case a nutritious meal.)

[Daniela1982]

You guys are such wusses! You are paying for them to go to dinner with you so they are well fed?

[TacosRAwesome]

Depends on how hard you're insisting. Like it's not cute if you get full on argumentative about it.

[Anonymous]

No. Honestly about have of the women I've dated have OFFERED to pay for themselves. Of course I thanked them for thier offer and respectfully declined it. But if they insisted I would've let them. I do warn you though. Some guys MIGHT take as a sign of disinterest in them on your part.

[Berethor]

Too few "rude" women like you, it okay I prefer if a woman don't date me for my money.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I hit yes, but I based it off of interpreting your question as "you insisting the guy pay for your meal", if you meant "you insisting you pay for your own meal", than no.

[Shamalien]

To insist? Yeah. It’s incredibly rude. If you’re kind and he enjoys himself he’ll probs pay it for you without having to be asked. If he doesn’t pay, he’s either broke or not that interested

[Sleeper07]

No it's not, however it sends signals that you don't want to pursue anything further

[Anonymous]

Of course not. Too many of them think paying for dinner entitles them to something afterward and it's better to squash that.

[Daniela1982]

Wait, what? They want something for nothing? Tell me, what keeps these leeches from going out with a guy for the meal while having no intentions of a 2nd date?

[strlb]

I don't find it rude, just unusual in society norms but I'd welcome it if you insist

[shanshu]

I'd offer a few time but if she insists then I say go for it

[anon1903]

It depends. Does he appreciate it?

[Stevefiveo]

Not rude but I would offer to pay first.

[Anonymous]

No way.

[Opinion Owner]

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