Who should pay for dinner on a first date?

Question

I definitely think the man should always pay, don't you think?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

NOBODY is entitled to anything for free. It could be courteous for someone to pay, and you can have your standards on who you choose to continue seeing.

I don’t think anyone should always pay what may be right for you may not be for someone else. All men don’t have to conform to your dating standards. Don’t be bitter with a man because he’s not what you’re looking for, I assume you don’t want a man doing this to you. If you don’t feel like seeing someone again. Then simply just be kind and say that you feel like you’re looking for different things. You don’t need a big long exclamation just you know what you want and he knows what he wants.

I can’t stand women who feel entitled. I’ll pay to be nice but if a woman feels entitled if she refuses to pay then she can her slapped with theft of services.

Especially when she is ordering the most expensive thing on the menu, not to mention if she was the one who initiated asking someone out.

Bring money to pay your half. Don’t go somewhere if you know you cannot afford it unless it’s been agreed upon that he will be paying.

Also relationships are always give in take. What is he getting out of this? He’s paying for a date. Some women think that all they have to do is put out for sex. Then wonder why they get dudes who that’s all they want, especially desperate ones. Because at least the players if they want sex they know where they can get it. They aren’t going to jump through lots of hoops to get it. So it’s gonna be men you aren’t attracted to.

I am NOT saying that’s who you are or most women are this way. But there are plenty who think this way. A lot of these women have never been told no…. And have a entitlement Princess complex. That when they aren’t living with mommy and daddy anymore find out the world doesn't work that way.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

in my opinion, no one should be going to dinner on a first date, unless you've known that person for a long time prior to dating them and you already have a good idea of their morals, values, and life-goals and you're pretty sure you are highly compatible in those areas. Someone who is a stranger to you? No.

First dates are about getting to know the other person - starting the first steps of the vetting process - and many times you are going to discover red flags and deal-breakers on that first date. Why should anyone pay for someone else's dinner (and drinks, and dessert, etc. etc.) when you have no idea who they really are and if things have any chance of working out? Save dinner and any other pricey dates for people you've committed to, and are in a relationship with.

For a first date with a stranger, go out to coffee, or ice cream, or take a picnic with you. Keep it casual, and comfortable, and focus on getting to know each other. Have QUALITY CONVERSATION.

"Nice" (i. e., more expensive) dates can come later, after she's been vetted, but not before.

And if she doesn't like that, then say "thanks anyway" and move on - no drama, just keep it rolling.

Laciejordan · Accepted Answer

It's always been the guy that's paid. They would make it perfectly clear they were going to treat me to dinner, so there weren't any awkward moments when the bill came. I think if it wasn't clear, I would honestly expect him to pay but would offer.

ShellyB · Accepted Answer

Whoever asks the other one out, and to answer that question before anybody asks, the guy should usually ask the girl out unless there is a special reason otherwise. JMO!

Finchie40 · Answer

Just depends on who’s asking who on the date first , that person should be the one responsible for the bill. If I ask a girl on a date , I already know I am treating her , so I pay the bill , if a girl asks me on a date , and she expects me to pay for everything , then she is in the wrong by thinking that way. But out of respect , I would tell her before hand if I have money or not , especially in my situation now with not having a job and scraping by , until I land another job , so I am not asking any girls’ on a date at this time lol And no girls’ are asking me on a date lol Sadly most females’ are just drawn to a guy with money. Not all , but most. Guys’ on the other hand are drawn to her beauty and getting to know her and yes sex as well if things go well. Crazy world we live in.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I am a very traditional man and when I was dating, I paid for everything on every date (unless my girlfriend was taking me to dinner for my birthday.)

DishLady · Answer

Whoever asked for the date should be ready to pay.

Colon_Colonizer · Answer

The guy, of course! Why? Because if he's not willing to fork out some cash to impress you, then he's definitely not gonna be down for some hot, greasy butt sex, that's for damn sure.

Now, some might say that going Dutch is the fairest way to handle the bill, but those people are boring, vanilla freaks who probably have missionary sex with the lights off. No thank you, I like my sex like I like my bills- wild, unpredictable, and with a healthy dose of butt play!

So, if your date isn't willing to pay, just remember, he's also probably the type of guy who would hesitate to ram his throbbing meat stick into your tight little anus. Do you really want to be with someone like that? Someone who's not willing to take risks, either financially or anally? Hell no! You're a bold, adventurous soul who deserves a partner who will not only wine and dine you but also explore the depths of your forbidden backdoor canal.

So, the next time you're on a date and the bill arrives, just think to yourself, "Is this guy butt-fuck material?" If the answer is no, then it's time to bounce, baby, because life's too short to waste on cheap dates and lackluster anal. Remember, you're a strong, independent sodomite who knows what they want, and what you want is a partner who will not only pay the bill but also enthusiastically explore the dark, uncharted territories of your glorious butthole. Anything less is a hard pass.

Unit1 · Answer

Women wanting our money. How extremely common.

Anonymous · Answer

Traditionally it should be the man. BUT, if it was the woman that asked she should be prepared to be the one that pays. Afterall the asker should pay which is usually the man. But having said that, it would be prudent to be prepared to pay whoever you are in whatever situation you're in. Because at the end of the day. NOBODY owes anybody anything. We're all adults here and can fend for ourselves. And should always be prepared.

Also having said that I've ALWAYS paid. But at least half if not more than half the time my date has offered. I myself would never expect my date to pay. But I've always taken note and appreciated the ones that offered.

Skinhead-1979 · Answer

I strongly feel the man should; but he is by no means obligated to do so.

I am just a little bit 'old-fashion' I suppose when it comes down to relationships and having a family... but I a modern enough that I can compromise of course.

I adore my partner... any females for that matter... so everything I do is centred around her and I want to spoil her as much as I can.

Olivier-628 · Answer

The new rules from a younger person. I am more traditional that the man should pay, but we both know that women are abusing that.

The man should ask what to do with the bill.

The female has two choices.
On a successful date: She says, ill pay the next one.
Non successful date. Split.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

Who asked who out?

I asked a few guys out for a date and I expected myself to pay for those 1st dates because I asked those guys out and told them ahead that the date's on me.

Still, one of the two insisted to pay for our date.

Damaged00 · Answer

You should always have the expectation to pay for your own meal. Especially on a first date since you're just getting to know each other and don't know if said person is worth investing in yet. It should be about offering your time and effort in the beginning not money.

Kiss_Me · Answer

Whoever asked for the date. DUH!

Men have started to see they are valued by the resources they can provide, not by the quality of man they can prove themselves to be. Men are starting to require women to pay their own way on first dates. If an effort to be generous, I will pay the full bill if I ask for the date. If not, it is just plain rude to want a man to pay for a date when a woman ask HIM for the date.

NewYorkCity · Answer

In 2024 and beyond every person has to pay for their own meal, because you know, ""I need no man in life"", death to all men, and most girls wishing for all men to disappear off the face of the earth. I sincerely hope one day all girls who want that their wish would come true.

FlowerChild94 · Answer

I feel like all these “dating rules “ are exhausting to argue about and say definite ways it “should be “ it’s really all preference and opinions.

But

I do agree with this opinion I want the man to always pay on the first date and 99% of dates I had men pay I enjoy that.

Sevenpointfive · Answer

i mean, if he pays then what's to keep her from trying that again? let her pay. sex is often exchanged for that meal, so she can control whether or not she gets the dick. the price of a mcdonald's happy meal for sex? where are you picking these girls up? i need one of those

Bricealan · Answer

I always have and still feel that way with a few exceptions. I had a long term relationship with a work-mate, and we traveled - toured-dined- everything BUT sex. We worked in the same office, and sex with a work mate always spelled disaster for me.

We shared expenses on our trips- and travels and that included meals etc as we tended to share the cost of everything as it was a LD relationship, 130 miles round trip for me.

Other than that I always paid.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

I think we should both pay for what we ordered. Not half, not just him, just pay for what you ordered.
I know he can pay for an extra person, that's not going to impress me at all. I'm in it for the long run so I won't let him invest in this alone.

Mike6658 · Answer

I believe a man should always at least offer to pay, but I also think that so many of the feminist women out there that say that things still aren't equal maybe they should offer to pay but all fairness whoever asked the other person out first should come with the expectation to pay. you don't ask somebody to go out and then also ask them to pay as well in my mind

llorando · Answer

In my opinion, the fair thing is everyone pays for their own meal. In past the workforce consisted mostly of men, so it was only natural that men paid for dates as most women didn't have the means of paying. But today the workforce is pretty even between men and women, so women no longer need to rely on man to pay their share of the date. It's OK if a guy offers to pay for his date, but he shouldn't be required to.

MysteriousDarkness · Answer

I say that each person pays for themselves. The reason is because you are both getting to know each other. If a woman expects the guy to pay it's a sign of a sign of a gold digger. More times than not if a woman says whoever does the asking out pays means she doesn't do the asking out and expects the guy to pay.

Pohjolan · Answer

Dinner shouldn't be until second date unless you already know the person from somewhere else.

You don't want to be awkwardly at the table realising that you have been catfished.

That said it should be whomever did the invitation but they should also get to choose the place.

by the way guys are totally fine with something like picnic if you are a woman with a budget.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

I always pay and I like it like that. I'm old school like that. I see some many guys making their woman pay and it's sad. If I was a woman I wouldn't go out with any man if I have to pay

Anonymous · Answer

The bill should be split. It's absurd that the expectation today is still that whoever asks should pay, since the expectation is still also that men should do the approaching and asking.

American women are incredibly hypocritical and entitled.

coxoabean · Answer

The man, but then after the girl can offer too. Unless maybe it's different if she invited him out. Anyway, as my friend said, the man should always pay for things

SugarSugarplum · Answer

My general approach is: the man pays for the first date and I cook for the second date. He can bring wine if he wants.

Apple1996 · Answer

Always the man. If he can't afford a date then he shouldn't be taking the woman out or they should go on a date that's free/cheap

EmmaMary · Answer

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worldscolide · Answer

On a first date I don't typically do dinner. It's usually something simple like a snack and a walk in the park or along the river so we can talk and get to know each other.. And yes I pay.

Shy_Steve · Answer

Yes, I think a Man should pay on the first date. But I think the Woman should be very Appreciative and at least offer to pay for desert or go out for a drink with him after to show him Appreciation.

spartan55 · Answer

I wouldn't do dinner as a first date. And yes I can afford it.

Lliam · Answer

I'd say the man. If he considers himself a man, that is.

Astarlessnightsky · Answer

Doesn't matter, but it should be discussed beforehand.

RingOfFire · Answer

I'll put it this way. If she thinks she should be the one who pays for the date, I wouldn't be going on a date with her.

SweetJoyGirl · Answer

It is always the guy when I go on dates, which I think is sweet.

Peridot25 · Answer

Always go Dutch. Just in case the guy offers in the beginning but does a 180 and calls you a gold digger.

bowenw · Answer

The person that asked the other out. Traditionally that is the man, but that has changed.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

I'll pay. I don't mind paying for food besides the point if I take her on a date is because I like her begin with.

Mark987 · Answer

Yes I agree as well, but if she asks him I would always offer to pay unless she gettin to the point where she was getting upset.

Dongie · Answer

I wonder, in this day and age of equality, why you or anyone would think the man should be held to extending chivalrous behavior.

Julian7312 · Answer

I'm old-fashions, I definitely love to treat for the first dinner.

OhLongJohnsoning · Answer

the men always pay, but, women need to at least offer to, so they dont look like they expect us to

OtterMan68 · Answer

whoever asked the other person out of course.

grega239 · Answer

50/50 We live in modern Times and are slowly abolishing gender roles.

LiamJHayden · Answer

The asker, unless it is agreed to otherwise beforehand.

Twalli · Answer

The man should always pay on the first date and always be able to pay, but not expected to.

NathanDavis · Answer

the restaurant

MrCharlie13 · Answer

Depends on if you will pay for dinner on the second date

daskapitalllll · Answer

i pay if its first date, then we do it fifty fifty

HalalCabello · Answer

The man should always yes!

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

Yep, that's what I have always done!

McLlovin · Answer

Whoever asked the other person out on a date

DJB72 · Answer

The person who initiated it

soe11 · Answer

Yes man should.

Jennz6 · Answer

Yes he should pay 💰 all of the time

Nifrayu · Answer

Who ever I'm on the date with pays.

shortster · Answer

Whomever asked for the date.

Crazzyyworld · Answer

Whoever getting a blow job

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Whoever invites.

Jerre · Answer

Yes, the man should always pay

Amur8711 · Answer

I do think the guy should pay

eagle1951 · Answer

the man always

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