It all depends on the situation. I've done all three, had someone invite me and they paid, I've paid, and I've split it.
Generally, whoever does the inviting/choosing the place does the paying, which is often the male. But even in those scenarios there is some leeway and a discussion can happen on if the bill will be shared or if one person wants to cover both parties.
This is not a new question (no offense, asker), but it is now coming into a new era of women's independence and empowerment, so often begets the question "so how much equality do you REALLY want?" when it comes to these more traditional approaches to what could easily be seen as disempowerment, misogyny, or some other form of men (possibly unintentionally) "keeping women down". There are lots of different viewpoints out there, and it's quite possible you could have a woman who interprets her date offering to split the bill as "cheap and rude", while he views himself as "empowering and communicative". You can also have men who view women who expect them to pay as "entitled and manipulative", while the woman sees herself as "having self respect and standards".
This is the beauty of a first date, you get to learn so much about the person sitting across from you! On an ideal date, two people splitting the bill are on the same page and develop new admiration and respect for each other, and also another couple where the man offers to pay, the same thing happens! :) <3If you leave the date feeling used or disrespected, or like you weren't treated well, then there's your first clue to move on to another prospect.
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For my generation, the guy always pays for the date. It's simple and there are never any arguments or misunderstandings. And I don't mind; I can afford it.
The one that asked the other out.
PS. Women can also ask guys out. There are a few, and they do! There are also women who do 50/50, which doesn't seem fair to me as there's always a good chance the other person ordered something twice your price of dish.
Either 50/50 or the one who invited the other person out. Me and my boyfriend usually split, but since he has a full time job and lives with his parents and I'm a full time student and live on my own, sometimes he pays.
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You aren't entitled to a free date those on here. If all you are looking for is a free date then go look for a sugar daddy. Not some dude trying to make ends meet paycheck to paycheck.
Same to you men if you can find a sugarmama then go do that. If that is all you care about.
Go work for your money. Paying for a date is a VERY nice thing to do please don't get me wrong. But especially when someone does not appreciate it or orders expensive stuff just expecting someone else to pay for it. Then you aren't worth being with. SORRY.
You are a narcissist if you think that you can expect someone to give all of themselves and give nothing in returnThe guy, keep it traditional if the girl says she wants to pay for it let her you don't one to seem selfish and make her pay for it but you also don't know if she wants you to pay for it so maybe give hints
First dates generally aren't elaborate, and I have no problem paying for them. It's not uncommon for some women to insist on splitting the bill though, in which case I'll typically accept.
Go Dutch (pay for what you ordered or split 50/50) or don't waste my time, cause I ain't anyone's Sugar Daddy.
That depends on the two people concerned. I will always pick up the cheque, but if she insists I'll just say OK then.
Whoever made the invitation pays. If the other party wants to split the check, that is fine.
pay for what you eat/drink unless the other person insists
50/50 or pay for your own, as it's not always the same thing.
If the woman asks me then she should pay and if I ask her out then she should still pay. 😜😜
I pay for my own meal, so they do not expect anything
Depends. If she is a working woman she needs to pay. If she's unemployed then he should pay.
women " i'm independent " women also " he should pay for the date" confused creatures
Whoever asked the other out…. In theory anyway. 🎀
If I asked them I offered to pay.
The person who asked.
Whoever invites should pay.
whoever did the inviting.
Whoever asks the other out.
The person doing the asking.
Bill Gates. He owes me.
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