Do something free. Then money isn't a deciding factor if you want to see them again. Nobody has to pay for anything and nobody feels like they owe anyone anything. For example say you play racquetball as a normal hobby... You probably already have a couple of rackets and balls. You just have to show up to a location and share your hobby with them. You get to check out each other's body, you stand around on a court and talk to each other, you get to be a little competitive, do a little exercise and work up a sweat... They learn something about your lifestyle while having a long conversation. Nobody has to spend a penny. If you like their personality and body then maybe you meet up again.
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In current society thats to complex to just answer. So many factors, who currently earns more of the two? Who asked who? How'd the date go? Etc.
Lets say there is a girl who I know earns a similar salary and during the date she was awful. Why would I pay for her?
Meanwhile if I can easily pay and she was amazing i'd probably want to treat her. But in modern society not everyone is in that boat now women have high paying jobs to. So I think the expectation of it always being the guy is outdated. It very much depends on who wishes to be the provider in the relationship and if they actually want to continue to begin with.
When my partner and I went out on our first date he offered to pay for my Uber and I kindly declined the offer and he kept asking months leading to that day, still declined. He offered to pay for my food and I declined the offer the same way I declined the first one but when we got to the restaurant he was adamant about it and said its a gentleman thing to do 🤷♀, I asked for his bank account details so that I can send him half the money he used but he said we'll split the bill next time. I think it depends on the person, some people don't mind covering everything everytime.
Some do 50/50 and some don't (the man pays everything every time and they don't mind it.)
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Both of you. I believe in splitting bills for any date, or at least covering your own bill. That way no one feels obligated to anything and if the date doesn’t work out, one of you hasn’t lost lots of money by covering both bills.
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If the guy is smart you can do things other than dinner at low cost. But if you are one of these people that wants to be wined and dined... then do not get pissed about the expectations that comes with that.
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I have always paid for everything on every date, except when an established girlfriend took me out for my birthday.
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I will... if she wants to split, that's fine...
if it is her idea, and she wants to pay... I'll suggest to split or for me to pay, if she still wants to pay for it all... I have not issue with that, I've done it before
one thing I won't do is to fixate over money or spending... never have, lol In the past I have said I would pay for the first date. Aside from inviting I have also chosen the venue which is the principal determinant of the bill. I am also aware that I have a high income and that my disposable $'s are not necessarily her disposable $'s.
Most men will not care about what she earns. I am quite happy if she is a broke waitress because I am looking for other essential qualities in her. The feminine virtues in short.
I did say in the past. If she doesn't bring femininity to the cafe table then I will now be inclined to fall back to splitting the bill.
Sadly some girls don't have enough femininity to accept the gentlemanly gesture of pulling the chair out to seat her. That has become something of the first acid test for me.
Usually the one who asked for the date...
In my case, i'll always pay because i'll only date a girl whom i want a serious relationship with and if everything works well than i'm going to marry her and she will become a devoted housewife so in my book the man pays to feed his girl!I will always pay for the first date. If it were something expensive or elaborate and her idea, she can pay. Her expecting to be paid for when it was her idea to do something expensive is a big red flag. But otherwise, a normal wholesome date, I'll pay every time.
He always pay he never let me pay even once.
I believe in paying, but I'm curious to know why it's automatically assumed it's the guy's DUTY to do so since the 2 individuals are both adults and presumably want to both get to know each other. It seems like a mutual thing.
Whoever asks. I asked my wife out I paid. I asked her out for a second date I paid. She asked me for a third she paid. You get the idea
Doesn't matter, just talk about it before ordering.
I feel the guy should and if she offers to split or pay the tip, she can do so.
The guy pays, always, and if she has additional dates scheduled with other guys, hopefully she'll let me pay for them, as well.
The person who asked out the other.
This should be obvious. This question is like asking "Is the Pope Catholic?"
If not split in some way, perhaps whoever suggested the place they went to.
I think who ever dose the asking out is offering to pay.
I would split. I don't want any obligations after a few first dates.
The guy should definitely offer to pay at least! Depends if the girl is happy for him to pay!
The guy first date. After that can split it. Or take turns paying
The person that extended the invitation.
First date the guy pays. There are legit reasons. After that for more dates both can contribute
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