Who pays for dinner on the first date?

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Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

Paying for a date is nice because it’s not something you have to do, I cannot stand a person whose entitled and entitlement will make me never want to see someone again.

At the end of the day, it’s the persons choice who pays. If the man wants to pay he can but both people at least have to cover their half legally. Skipping on a date can have the police at your door very fast for theft of services, and this happens more then some may expect.

With that being said, people are also entitled to their preferences and standards. If something is not meant to be then that’s why we date for instance if you are wanting a man who pays, and the man you’re with doesn't pay for you then you can decide that it’s not meant to be. At the same time nobody is entitled to someone for instance paying for a date.

If men and women would drop their entitled attitudes maybe they would be a genuine connection with somebody.

Billlewis · Accepted Answer

The guy should always, always always pay, whether it's the first date, the fiftieth date, or in my case, even her dates with other guys, if at all possible.

Marathonmama · Accepted Answer

It’s whoever asked out the other person. I’m old school Italian if I ask anyone to lunch I’m buying. In any relationship romantic or otherwise whoever says can I take you too lunch I believe is responsible for paying

msmissydc · Accepted Answer

The one asking the other person out. Otherwise if thats not applicable both pay or one offers to pay, that shouldn't be required though. Dont genderlock payment.

MrOracle · Answer

Who goes to dinner on the first date? Maybe if you have known the other person for a long time, but that is a lot of money for someone you don't really know.

I pay for dinner 2/3 to 3/4 of the time with my girlfriend, but the other times, she pays. We're in a relationship though, and we have already vetted each other and know who we are sharing our lives with. It doesn't make sense to me to drop several hundred dollars on a first date (really, the first couple of dates) with someone I barely know. Maybe ice cream or something, but dinner? No.

HawkPerception · Answer

I believe in Dutch dating. Both parties should pay for themselves. Unless the girl is traditional and wants a traditional relationship where she cooks and cleans and the guy handles the finances, in which case the man pays.

Regardless, this should be discussed before the date so both parties know what to expect. That's what 2 mature adults should do.

AviatorTom · Answer

The general rule is that whoever does the inviting does the paying. That's usually the man on the first date, but it really doesn't matter, as long as both people are okay with it.

Finchie40 · Answer

Depends on who is asking who first

mandyfire98 · Answer

Each should pay for their own bill.

Anonymous · Answer

I never used to think this way but I think whoever ask these days should for the bill. But at the same time a majority of women don’t actually ask men out so they will never pick up the tab. A lot of women say they won’t sleep w a man right away because they want to know if he’s serious about a relationship. W that said, would it be ok if he insisted on her paying for her own food for a duration of time until he knew she was serious about a real relationship? That way he knew she wasn’t just using him for free meals.

MisterWack · Answer

Tell the plan upfront 1) You want to pay for your dinner and they pay for theirs 2) You split the bill evenly or 3) I’ll pay for everything whether M or F
You always say it upfront before going on the date then at the date you verify the plan. Best course of action in a polite way.

ManInChains · Answer

Whoever initiated the date is the one who should pay in my opinion. Typically under our gynocentric society laws, men are always expected to do it and have to be happy to do so or else he is isn't considered a good guy. Especially now a days where everyone is struggling, more and more young men are having less dates because he can't afford to pay. 🤷🏻‍♂️ Women expect too much

petitedollbabee · Answer

Whoever asked the other out on the date, or it should be paid equally - 50/50. That’s something that should be agreed upon before the date.

dragoblack · Answer

First date is always paying for your own, unless the guy offers to pay. If a guy goes on a date and the woman starts ordering the most expensive stuff on the menu, the guy is going to dip, leaving her with the bill. Guys don't put up with being used and will glady pay for his own meal and walk out.

chrissykerdock · Answer

men should because the woman is likelly to pay by giving him a blowjob i would be insulted to pay or no date

lisafkit79 · Answer

It depends on conditions like 1 who asked for date 2 who got more money  Note: if she has done some really nice name up and dressed to good man should pay because it cost a lot

Nik1hil · Answer

The one who asked the other person out on the day!.. in general.. Best if It's a split, whatever the individual Order Pay for it and go 50% on the Tip

77five · Answer

Each pay for you own food. Literally why would it be any different?

BadApple69 · Answer

I’m old fashion. I pay… not only the first time but every time.

Nikki1989 · Answer

According to common sense, it is the individual who requested the date.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Smart people make it a business meeting. The company pays :P

exitseven · Answer

the person that extended the invitation should pay

anon1903 · Answer

Who asked whom is important to know here  Splitting bill is ideal I think

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

I think men should pay for the first few dates

LiamJHayden · Answer

The asker unless other arrangements are agreed upon.

morganherrel · Answer

A man who did not like the date can offer split the bill.

NathanDavis · Answer

ideally... it doesn't matter

noohair · Answer

The asker pays.

slatyb · Answer

The person who asked.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Men..

paledreams · Answer

Split bills 💸😔💸 😈😈😈

jojouzumaki · Answer

Each should pay their own bills.

Peridot25 · Answer

Go Dutch. That’s the best option.

Wiredone · Answer

The guy should always pay for the whole date

Smashingdoozy · Answer

Pay for yourself

Xawyx · Answer

The one who invited the other to dinner.

Daphne96 · Answer

I believe person who ask who out.

Iron_Man · Answer

The Man

shortster · Answer

The inviter

Nazgol · Answer

Man.

Shq1pe · Answer

Men.

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