"If the man earns significantly more than the woman, then sure, by all means, the man should offer to pay for the first date, and the majority of dates."Why though? It isn't his responsibility to redistribute his own wealth to her. If she makes less than him it is likely because she didn't study as hard in school or doesn't work as many hours, or a number of other factors that all lead back to her effort/work ethic. Women should be prepared to pay for their own meals regardless of their income. If your income is low, don't bite off more than you can chew: date a guy who is closer to you in income and/or suggest going on the date somewhere you know you can afford.
At least that's kind of ethical stance I've adopted, as well as the attitude I found most successful in my case for dating. If I'm not the "leader" of the date, then it makes no sense to pay the bill, but if I am, then it makes a whole lot of sense to me. But leadership is a responsibility as I see it, not a privilege, so I do want to make sure the girl has a good time under my lead, but I set the pace and direction of the date.
I did not always start like this. Initially I took a very friendly "equality" approach, like asking the girl where she wanted to go instead of deciding where we go, in which case splitting the bill makes sense since we're hanging out like buddies. But I did not find this approach very successful compared to stepping up to the plate and taking the lead.
Ironic how on here the majority of women say they'd pay but in real life the majority of the ones I've gone on dates with refused to pay or didn't even offer lol. No offense.
@SupernovaV10 If she asked you out and didn't pay for it, that's a massive red flag.
Oh absolutely. At the very least she should discuss upfront splitting the bill if she doesn't intend on covering the entire bill. But it's only respectful to pay or at least offer to if she asks him out.
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taxation is theft.
I agree with everything except for the last sentence. If that is what you believe, stand your fucking ground, and the right type of woman would respect you all the more for it.
ShortCircuitNot everyone can aspire to the same levels of excellence. Instigating a conflict over principle over a date is highly sensative and not many people have the skills needed to produce success. If we all were to aim for the highest values possible without compromise there would likely be a massive birth rate catastrophe impending in the future. Also, it is uncommon to find a girl of honour or distinction, you could be having too high of standards. Although, it isn't a shame to reach for the best.
So I'm the only one that would rather be alone than settle? Yeah, girls of honour and distinction are uncommon. So the fuck what? Also, what would be so wrong about a birth rate catastrophe? I don't know about you, but I could use some breathing room.
I don't mind much who pays the bill as long as one can afford it, are willing to pay, and legit pay it.just pay the food and have a blast. plain and simple.and I recommend not spending more money then you can afford to spendone can still have a blast on a date while saving money
There’s nothing wrong with that idea if both are mutual about it. Everyones different though. It’s thoughtful when i see a guy pay for my meal first. I’d like to take him out for a treat myself the same day/night or the next and enjoy the time together. Cx
I love you 😚