Polls: Family & Friends

I feel kinda worthless right now... and I feel a bit unworthy of my friend's attention. My friend and I met on the internet like 8 months ago. Started talking on a website, and then we eventually started following each other on our personal social medias (that's where we talk now).

My friend has left me on read a few times lately. The first time seemed to have just been a misunderstanding (but I got replied to half a day later). The 2nd time, my friend was probably just busy because I got a response to my text like 2 hours later. And this is it, I got left on read yesterday. Still haven't received a reply and it's been like 15 hours since then.

My online friend and I have some hobbies in common but now that I can see their social medias, I realize that it is a much different person from what I was expecting. My friend's popular, goes to parties, spends a lot of time outside... while I don't do any of these things and frankly, I'm quite a lonely person or, in other words, a "loser". And I don't know, it makes me feel unworthy of their attention. I always feel anxious whenever I send a message (I'm afraid of bothering/annoying my friend due to the push notifications). And I feel unwanted. Maybe my friend still cares but just takes me for granted, I don't know, but I feel very sad about the whole situation.

So should I stop texting my friend and see if they ever initiate? Maybe my friend will miss me someday (since we used to talk almost everyday for like 6-7 months). But well, my friend did initiate a lot of times in the past (on the other website that we used to chat). But not yet on the social media (though, we have been texting there for only a few days).

Many girls tell me that they don't need to love their male offspring because this tboa not the 90s anymore

My stepmom and my dad were arguing over some personal issues and I was feeling stressed out. Something about junk food, cigarettes, her family, she yelled very badly at my dad, she said that he and I need to f*** off and leave, etc etc etc. My dad said that I need to tell her I was sorry for what I said, even though I already apologized. My dad accused me of being "smart" with her even though I was literally stating a fact and wasn't saying it in a negative tone. I hate being around people who always think words matter more than tone, action, context, etc. I get influened very easily by these people.

I am on vacation with them but I will be leaving tomorrow to return to my mom's house. My mom found out that I called 911 becaue I am currently on my stepdad's phone bill line and he found out about it and talked to my mom about it. She and my dad told me not to call 911 anymore; luckily the police didn't come.

I feel not just very bad for my dad but very regretful of planning this vacation s**t in the first place. I've gained hella weight, my dad keeps telling me I'm not fat EVEN THOUGH I ACTUALLY AM, no girl f***ing wants to date me even though my dad keeps calling me handsome and telling me not to believe what people on Photofeeler say about me. Every non-bot girl on Tinder and Bumble ignores me like I am a subhuman buttugly doofus.

I am not a Joe Rogan or a Brad Pitt... I am just an average guy with a mathematically intelligent mindset. I have autism, my stepmom literally tried to bring me into her aggressive conversations with my dad, she yelled at my mom over the goddamn phone, and I am so f***ing pissed that my dad would say that *I* offended her.

I told my dad I wouldn't apologize, and when he told me to do so, I called my mom and then the police. I didn't tell my dad or my mom this, but I just wanted to place my stepmom in jail for the way she had been treating my dad.

What kind of text is better to send to an online friend?

I don't want my online friend to get annoyed of me so I don't text them everyday (I mean, we text on a social media now so they receive notifications on their phone whenever I text them).

Would an online friend get annoyed if I just text them "Hey, what's up?" or "How are you?"? I mean, would that just seem clingy?

Or would it be better to actually send them memes or cool stuff, etc. And then a conversation could develop after, y'know?

What should I do? I've recently started texting my online friend on a social media (after being friends for 8 months) but I sure don't want to seem clingy or annoying (since they can now receive push notifications for every message I send). I just wanna respect their boundaries (but I don't wanna ask if texting them every day or every 2 days would be too much because that would be a bit weird in my opinion) haha.

Let us say that your daughter is a lot like princess Charlotte towards both older and younger brothers, she is the boss she tells the boys how to play, what to play and what to do in general, one day your older son left the house bland writes a letter saying

" Dear mom I can't anymore, you do and say nothing as you watch how my life gets dictated by my younger sister, I left because you laugh and find it cute when she does these things Tobi's, don't bother looking for me. And keep your daughter away from me "

this is how she treats your son's the one son ran away from home because of her attitude.

In uppity dinner parties or even family events? I certainly dont want to see my mothers. But non family…have at it.

This is going to be a nerdy question with a lot of context. Im sorry about that.

I watched youtube all day today. And learnt so much good shit. There is gold on that site.

Something I learnt was something Jesus preached. Something fundamental Jesus preached. Which means it's fundamental to what Jesus lived like. Right.

He preached the sermon on the mountain as they call it. Thousands of random people listening. Like an amputheater, his voice reverberating upward. Everyone, even the dude on the back row hears his voice like he's sitting next to him.

The first thing he said. "Do not worry about what you will eat. Wear. Who you know. Who likes you." None of that shit.

"The richest man in the world wasn't ever better dressed than a flower. The dumbest buzzard in the world never ate shit. God provides."

This is so so so key. My half bro never worried about shit. He was so freaking manly. Thats what I dont get about Jesus haters. People thinking he was feminine. Jesus had to be a real man to say that.

There was another philosopher named Seneca who said a mind can be so clogged with irrelevant concerns that it causes an unfulfilled life.

It's the maslow hierarchy of needs. Its fasting and prayer. Its letting go of unimportant concerns. And it all ties together. Wow

• To become fulfilled basics have to be taken for granted

Do you agree

When can we no longer get away with it, living that life and are clearly not cool anymore? (If the number is more specific than my poll choices feel free to comment your own cut off point)

Be honest :p

So, my online friend and I have known each other for 8 months. We used to be very close, chat a lot, watch films together. But now, she always takes a long time to reply (like 2-3 days). It has become REALLY annoying. It's basically a pattern now. She apologized on her own a few days ago for being inactive (she said that she didn't feel so good these past days) even though I hadn't asked her if she was ok, etc. I appreciated her initiative, and she even started talking about a tv show that we both watch. Great. I replied as soon as I woke up... no reply. She hasn't read it yet, and it's been 2 days now. Yesterday, I double texted her and said that I'm here for her if she needs to talk and that I miss chatting/watching films with her, etc and that she is a good friend). I understand that she has a life, etc, and that she can't receive push notifications on the website that we use to chat... but COME ON! She used to reply at least once a day... I'm sick of being taken for granted. I guess I'll just disappear from the website for a few days... maybe a few weeks? She double texted me (like 9 days ago) because it took me half a day to reply. So, I'll see how she reacts when she sees that I don't reply within 5 days or so. I'm sick of seeing her being online on her social medias all the time (we follow each other on our personal accounts). I'm doing this because I wanna see how much she really cares and how much she values our friendship. Maybe she'll realize that she doesn't wanna lose me after all (especially after reading my text from yesterday).

Should I text this to my friend? So my friend has been acting a bit distant lately (takes a long time to reply, like 1, 2 or 3 days, she even left me on read once, etc). She apologized on her own for being inactive and not feeling good as well (well I think that's what she meant). I'm glad that she took this initiative (I hadn't double texted her nor asked her why she wasn't replying, but well, it basically took her 3 days to reply to my previous text). She still hasn't read my reply, though (which I sent as soon as I woke up, so a few hours later). It's been a day already (well 23 hours, but still). Now, I am thinking of sending her this text (maybe tonight):

"Hey (name), I hope that you are doing well! I don't know what you're going through but as I said yesterday, I am here if you need someone to talk to. You're a good friend, and I understand if you need space. Anyway, I'm looking forward to chatting and/or watching films again! Take care, (name) 😉"

So my online friend has been acting distant lately. Left me on read on Wednesday (though my message didn't really require a response tbh), then I sent another text on Thursday (about something unrelated). She replied on Friday, said that she had been busy lately (preparing stuff for the weekend because she was apparently going to some events). OK, fine. I reply to her on Friday, she replies exactly 24 hours later on Saturday. On Saturday, I reply again, then send another message (invitation to spend time together because we haven't done it in a few weeks). Still no response after 2 days. I told myself: "She'll not hear from me again 'till she texts me".

She texts me on the 3rd day and says "Hey! I'm sorry, I haven't been feeling really good lately" (she didn't word it like that, but I guess that's pretty much what it meant). Then, she says that she hopes I'm feeling good and she asks me what I thought of the latest episode of the tv show that we both watch. She texted this very early in the morning, so I replied like 3 hours later (when I woke up). She still hasn't replied. But, we text on a website that doesn't send push notifications, so that might explain why she hasn't replied yet. But I don't want to check if she has read it (or else she'll see that I was active not long ago and probably believe that I'm obsessing over if she has read it or not). Saying this because she knows that I pretty much only chat with her on that website. I just don't understand, she literally apologized this morning for being inactive and now she's back at it again.

Anyway, now, my question is (please vote in the poll): should I stop texting her first and not double text as well (even if she might actually not be feeling all that good at the moment)? And should I ask her if she wishes to keep contact with me (could explain that I'm feeling a distance in the friendship)?

Pros:
1. Me and my parents have tension sometimes because we’re always in each other’s face. So this will help
2. I can be independent

Cons:
1. I never lived alone since college
2. I would be paying $1700 a month in rent

Is it ok if I text this to my friend who is acting distant?

My friend doesn't respond as much anymore (takes 1-2 days to reply.. sometimes 3). Left me on read twice in a few days (which is unusual). But I recognize that my messages didn't require a response, but still... a bit unusual in our friendship.

Can I send this to my friend?

"Hey, I'm sorry, I recognize that I haven't been a good friend these past few weeks. I feel like something has changed, but it's all on me. I may have been unavailable, but I should have still tried to spend more time with you. I honestly miss our conversations. You're a good friend and I'm sorry if you felt taken for granted. 😕"