Questions: Family & Friends

I love my parents so much, but I'm not what they wanted and it's breaking my heart and holding me back. They've spent so much money on me, sent me to college, helped me move from various apartments, had me over for dinner countless times, they tell me they love me... and yet my mom told me a couple months ago that I should never have kids because they're nothing but a big disappointment, and they favor my older brother despite the fact that he treats me like absolute dirt. They always side with him. He just got married last week and I gave him several hundred dollars as a gift, and he never even bothered to text me to say thank you. When I told my mom, she said that I was being catty and self absorbed and making everything about me. That's just one small example of what I've had to deal with my entire life. He visibly ignores right in front of them, and they say nothing about his behavior.

They knock down everything I do. I make a living wage as a receptionist and pay my own apartment rent and am ENTIReLY financially independent from them, and yet they still tell me my job is a disappointment. Recently I've started making a little extra cash on freelance writing and they can't even begin to act like they're happy for me, even though they know I've always dreamt of being a writer.

I'm just wondering if I should just stop speaking to them. I love them and I'm crying as I write this, because it would break my heart but I can't keep seeking their approval and continuously falling short. I can't keep being the least favorite child, second to a narcissist.

do you think I should stop talking to them?

i've been having sex with my boyfriend (who is also 15) for months now, always using protection. I promised my mother that I would tell her whenever i started having sex but I obviously didn't and I feel really bad for that. Should I tell her that I am not virgin anymore? don't know if she will tell dad but I really fear his reaction. what should i do?