Polls: Girl's Behavior

So I've looked around the internet for a bit and I've only seen guys asking if they should send a happy birthday, but not much about girls typical motivations they might feel while in this conundrum.
id love to know the female's perspective on the motivations.

(History)
We've known each other a long time us both growing up in the same church, im 27 she is 22.
We didn't talk much as kids, but 3 years ago i started to get the feeling she was developing a bit of a crush.
She would rub up against me while passing me by seeming to not notice or care that her stomach just grazed my butt.
She would always be around me during public hang outs, she would ask me to walk her to washrooms, she would separate me when looking too happy talking to other girls by acting all cute pulling my arm and saying she needs to go pee. She would randomly bite my shoulder or quickly lick my my leg in public when sitting between them while i was on the my laptop.

We'd text every day for a bit, and the climax was when i got back from a 2 week vacation and we hung out on a couch and she put her head on my lap and we talked for a few hours and i got in her pants and started to play with her ass.

A few weeks later things slowly cooled down, we don't talk much now, but still share the occasional LOOK.
because covid we haven't seen each other in over a year.
This year though i consciously didn't text her on her birthday because the year before she didn't message me on my birthday, petty i know, (our birthdays are 5 months apart).

This year i got one, we haven't really talked for about 2 years. (Don't have fb and don't do bday stuff on ig)

It went as follows.
Her: happy birthday!!
Me: thanks (name) i appreciate the birthday wishes 😁 hope you're doing well.
Her: im doing great anyway enjoy being 27.
Me: I'll try, thank you.
I know nothing special, but the only other girls that messaged me happy bday definitely have a crush on me, so just a bit confused, Girls please help

If you are following me you may have noticed I've been talking about this girl that just graduated from high school. Apparently she likes me. Yeah sometimes she conversates but she mostly send snaps with her face, sticking her tongue out or drinking from a straw. I generally try to make her engaged with me.
Even in broad daylight she'll leave me on delivered for about 2-4 hours about once, twice in a while. Maybe even 5 hours. But it's not all her fault since I sometimes leave her on read for between 10 minutes and two hours.. not knowing what to write or say.
She'll occasionally like a TikTok video of mine and sometimes views my Snapchat stories. Very rarely my Instagram story. She follows me and I follow her on all three, formerly two, social platforms.

So my friend was trying to hook me up with a girl he knew. We met at the park and she immediately sat on my lap and hugged me. I didn't really know what to do and just wrapped my arms around her.

I didn't say much and then she walked away. I feel I should've done more but I was somewhat clueless. Probably not the end but it happened so quick that I didn't know how to react.

I think this is so hard to deal with if you're a woman. You really can transform your face entirely and see a different perspective in life. This would be too much for me to deal with as a guy.

I would literally feel like crap once I took the makeup off. Probably have a conflicted identity to where im plain jane without makeup but a hottie with it.

You see this in media a lot where the guy picks the girl up and it's cute or it's funny or romantic whatnot. I've never seen it happen irl except once where it annoyed the girl, made her mad.

Girls/women do you really like being picked up by your partner or even someone flirting w you or being playful, or do you not like it?

And why?