Polls: Guy's Behavior

3 different male neighbors all older than me and married have something against me and don’t know me at all. I can confirm that out of the 3 1 is definitely mentally ill (the other 2 might be actually) and I don’t get it. I’ll never give a fuck about them but to have so much hatred towards someone you don’t know seems weird/sick. They’re all non black men and seem very obsessed with me. I wouldn’t give any of them the time of day. I feel like as a black woman nobody has respect for us.

This guy who I asked out a couple back said that he's not intimidated when a girl asks him out. That, instead, he perceives her as confident. A guy associate said the same thing to me. He told me how attractive it is! What are your povs?

I’m in my 30’s but probably look younger because I’m happier than them, into my looks and only have 1 kid. My neighbors are in their 40’s with 2 kids and tired of bills I’m assuming or their lives. Anyway what’s up with a married man disliking a single mom who stays to herself? I’m not gonna say I’m a 10 but I’m decent and I guess attractive to some people.

The coworker is 15 years older than me, is married, and have kids. He’s friendly and works out a lot. There is no attraction and we’re just coworkers who share interests in working out.

Appologies for the long read!

Backstory:
I walked into the drugstore barefaced, hair in a bun, wearing birkenstock sandals, black running leggings, & black graphic t-shirt with joker on it. I went in to purchace some eyebrow pencils- (I have pretty thick eyebrows already, but as the perfectionist I am, I must shape them so that they're EXACTLY even. Kind of like how Death The Kid is obsessed with symmetry, I too get triggerd when things aren't perfectly symmetrical. I used to use eyeshadow to shape them, but I hate how scruffy the lines come out & clean up w makeup wipes I have to do, due to fall out. So, I wanted to test if pencils would come out looking better.)

Context:
Anways, as I stand infront of the register while the cashier rings up my items, he lifts up one of the pencils then looks at me... then the pensils... and then me again.. 😐 And our conversation went like this:

Cashier- Is this for you?
Me- Yes
Cashier- Can I be honest with you-
Me- uh.. sure?
Cashier- Makeup is made for a specific type of woman. [continues anti-makup rant] natural always trumps it
Me- It's just for fun
Cashier- In todays society nothing is done for fun
Me- *awkward smile* ... ok

(My dad was with me aswell) As we leave the establishment my dad says that cashier was "hitting" on me bc he thought I was "beautiful." (A toxic lie dads always tell their daughters)🤦🏽‍♀️ Nevertheless, I've never been more confused in my life by a conversation. I don't know & idc if he was trying to flirt bc It sounded more a lot more like patranizing & scolding than it did flirting. Sounded more like a: 'you're too ugly/it's deception' or a 'your eyebrows are too big' kind of speach. All I know is that as a cashier, don't lecture costumers about what THEY buy with THEIR money. Just ring up our shit & shut up.

But do any of you understand his point he was trying to make? I wish I could remember the rest of his one-sided rant.

I am a kind of girl that likes to do things on my own and not be dependent on somebody. If I want a guy to like me do I help him or do I let him be helpful to me?

I met this guy 3 weeks ago at a concert. I went by myself. His friends approached me and we ended up hanging out for the night. He flirted but never made a move. His one friend was drunk and got my number before I left for the night. Next day, his friend asked me out, I politely declined, explaining I had chickened out from asking the guy I was interested in for his number. The friend said the guy heard me telling another guy I had a boyfriend (I don’t, I do this when I’m out alone to easily reject guys). The friend also sent me the guys number and said he thought I should text him. I did. We texted everyday for a week and he called me 3 or 4 times to chat. First time he called he said he was not a good texter and preferred calling (if I was good with that). Throughout the week we got to know each other a bit. He made sure I knew he lives a few hours away (he is moving soon tho), and that he is 9 years older than me. The last call we had was ~ half an hour and went really well. He teased me and called me nicknames, said his friends thought I was really cool, and mentioned different things we could do together. He told me he was going on a trip that weekend and at a music festival the following weekend so he would be super busy. He told me he was just a call away before we hung up.
I texted him the next morning responding to something he sent the night before. I asked a question about something we discussed on the call and he never responded to the text. A week after our last call, I had not heard from him so I texted again. I said I might be able to make time if he wanted call me again sometime that week. I figured I was likely getting ghosted, so I mentioned if he wasn’t feeling it that I understood and it would be no hard feelings. He texted back a couple days later adamantly saying he definitely wanted to keep talking. He never called though, and that was about 5 days ago now. Should I consider myself ghosted? If not, is it likely he’s just not very interested?

the stranger might be a cute girl but doesn't necessarily wear revealing clothes, if that's what you're getting at.

this is more of a question from my mum. my brother would post this but he's not popular enough lmao. so here we are.

I have visible collarbones , I don't know if helps in looking more attractive , for me personally I'm pretty neutral on it , I don't find it hella attractive nor does it make anyone look ugly either.

So I am autistic and need some help. This guy im talking to has explained who is after and it seems he wants a women who is independent. He also said it's sexy if a women owns a business.

Does that mean he won't want me. He does keep talking about having sex and sex positions with me... so I'm confused.

Please explain your answer.

I look at things logically. A woman who has her own success is less likely to be interested in you because of your money etc and thus less likely to be a gold digger. Whereas a housewife typically has nothing to her name and is typically gold digger