I prefer if both partners actually helps each other out and actually support each other. It doesn't seem healthy to only have one person literally doing all the work.
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Let him help... do for you when you need it. It is how you meet people in general. Guys like being useful especially to women...
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Men are born to provide and protect. Independent women who scream, " I can do it myself" is a huge turn off to masculine men. Men want a woman who needs them. It's in our DNA to do things for the woman we love.
You helping him will come off more like a friend because you would be your masculine energy doing that... stay feminine and let him be the guy.
I think you have to do both, you need to help him but also allow him to help you. That does not mean you can not do things for yourself but allow others to patriciate and feel invested on some level with you as you are with them,. It does not take anything away from you let someone share in your success and failures, and it allows them opportunities to invest in you. People who refuse help or at least let someone close enough to lean on them from time to time, usually put up barriers.
We all need and want things from our relationships, so it is not about helping or being helped as much as it is about letting people patriciate and feel invested in our life's.You made C too cheeky of answer to not pick.
I know the stereotype is that you let us help you out. And it works. Its cliche because it earned a right to be.
That said I'd probably find myself more into a girl who showed me what she can do and gave me a hand. Sure, that's because I find the whlle confident and capable thing much more attractive than the shy and helpless thing but I doubt I'm alone on that. And also, this just stands out more.I am also an independent woman, but I know men. They LOVE to be "the hero" and come to your rescue. Let him have his moment and help you. Don't be afraid to ask him if he needs assistance too. Let him be himself. Make him feel comfortable and allow him to see that you're approachable. Good luck!
You can do both, or let him be helpful to you. Men are valued for what we produce and provide, not for what we are. You will not likely get favorable results if you never let him provide for you in some way. It’s a fine line to walk, especially for a strong, independent woman, to let a man give of himself enough to feel respected and appreciated, but not so much he feels used.
The easy and simple answer is be yourself. You are independent and that is amazing. Start by finding a guy who is also independent. Trust me the whole knight in shinning armor or the I may emasculated him if I don't let him help thing is way overdone. If a guy feels that way then he is not the right guy for you. The caveat with this is you also need to let him treat you like a lady by letting him open your door and the whole gentleman thing. This shows that he respects you.
A guy wants to know that you will be a help in his life not a liability. Í'll be taking the more traditional talk to make it understandable. We want someone who we know can take care of the children if we are out of the home and who we don't need to babysit constantly and we want someone who doesn't cause drama and uses logic.
Don't worry about what he likes, do what you like. If he's worth being with, he'll accept it because that's you being you. If he can't deal with the fact that he may sometimes need help, and that sometimes that help may come from a girl (you), perhaps he's not someone that makes a good match.
You can do both. If I can't contribute anything I do feel pretty useless but I don't have to do everything either like it can be cooperative ^^
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How about helping each other because burdens are always easier when shared with a partner?
Why would either effect whether or not he likes you?
You should want to help each other and both of you should accept help from each other, whether you really need it or not. It's a sign that somebody actually gives a fuck.
If you just let him be helpful to you he might think your using him or if you just make him feel Comfortable he might think you think less of him so your better off doing both or all 3.
Say, "Fuck off asshole, I can do it myself! I'm not a kid! 😡"
You can go for a mutual helping kind of thing. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses to work on.
All him how he feels about it and you might be surprised at his answer
How bout just being a decent human being and letting him decide. You'd be amazed how many women fail at something as simple as that.
If a woman helps you it means she cares about your well-being so it's a good sign
Both. Isn't it obvious?
You be you.
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