Polls: Guy's Behavior

He’s my married neighbor (totally not my type and too old and washed up) he offered me to go with him to the park so our toddlers could play, I never did. He also makes a lot of noise in his apartment on purpose once I started ignoring him. I called the police and property manager on him.

When I saw him my heart skipped a beat, but trying to play it cool I approached the relationship with only friendship in mind. He ended up being kind and funny. He would stare at me from across the room, leave his group of friends just to talk with me and the TEASING? Well time goes by and I don't see him at my shift. I decided to try and look for his IG. When I clicked on his profile I saw a whole highlight dedicated to his GIRLFRIEND. I was so shocked. I tried my best to get over my feelings. But after a week I had to get some answers, so I texted him on Snap. I told him how I thought my feelings were mutual but I'm aware of his girlfriend, I made sure to mention that I thought she was pretty and how I think they should stay together. He left me on "seen". Even worse? He didn't add me back as a friend !

So a few weeks pass and I see him in the CITY with his GIRLFRIEND and he nods his head to my sister and I (my sister knows nothing about this). I just stood there and said "hi". Next day I see him at WORK? We had a few shallow interactions, but I guess I'm just too real to ignore the fat elephant in the room so I was pissed and ended up flirting with his friend in front of him. After this he wouldn't look at me at all lol. The next shift I saw him, I ended up knocking over his coffee. I wanted the ground to swallow me whole. I decided that I would re-make the coffee and when I gave it to him he smiled and said "thanks I appreciate that". I didn't even reply I just wheezed and left. When the day was over I was walking home with my sis and he drove past with his friends, he started pulling faces. And we just stared at each other. It felt nice, but at the back of my mind I was thinking of his girlfriend. Recently it was his bday, I say happy birthday on Snap again. He replies with "thanks that means a lot" and I reply with the "ok" hand emoji. He STILL didn't add me back. Why won't he add me back on Snapchat?

Advice is appreciated!

Each guy wants a different girl. Everyone same age. The girls are the same height as the other girls. The guys are also the same height as the other guys. Guys are about 5 inches taller than the girls.

You'll have a chance to observe everyone in a span of 3 hours. How confident are you?

I did the female version of this about a year ago. I'll post it in the updates if you want to see it.

A guy I work with that I have known for years and I have always had a playful relationship. We banter, joke and pick on each other during breaks. He and I started a casual fling with the understanding it wouldn't be a serious thing and that it had to end if feelings were attached. So, we go on this way for months, never hanging out outside of work except for hook ups. Feelings grow. He acts jealous when I talk to other guys, he goes out of his way to make me jealous. He lights up when I walk into a room, this warm, glowing smile on his face. He goes out of his way to look out for me, and a couple of times he says love you to me as we get off the phone, quietly like he wants to make sure I cannot hear. He goes through days where he burns super hot and cold, nervous and jittery around me. When I first say it back finally, he seems happy or giddy about it. I say it a few times, only as we get off the phone. The last time, he seems nervous, and does something to intentionally make me jealous afterwards. I get up the courage to ask him if it bothers him that I told him I love him. He asks me why, and when I won't tell him right away he says I shouldn't and flips it on me, saying what we have was supposed to be casual and why did I allow myself to catch feelings? He keeps asking why I love him but then apologizes and says I don't owe him an explanation. I finally ask him if he feels the same and he says no, that he's sorry he led me to believe he did.

I tried something new. Soooo normally when I’m caught off guard by adversarial energy, I shut down and become very cold and mechanical saying nothing beyond what I’d be ready or I walk away.

But I think lately how most often anger is just frustration amplified by fear and how stuff I get and about is sweetly if every bc of sone deregulated onion about another person or bc I want to hold power over someone…

So when this lesson unexpectedly got and and yelled , which immediately triggered me but instead of shutting down, I paused smiled and said “if I do not get mad, or sad - bc I won’t I promise ✋🏼 will you tell me why you are upset?”

They actually calmed down and told me what the problem was! and it turned out it was miscommunication 😅 I’m totally going to employ this strategy more.

I normally avoid responding to people who I think are being disrespectful bc it seems like a feel weak position t more bad behavior by accommodating, but instead I felt very much in control kind & trust worthy. It was awesome 👏🏼

Before me he’s only been with bigger people. I’m very small and petite. I have smaller b cup boobs and a bigger bum - which he claims is exactly his type.

He did this to his ex too just got rid of her like it was nothing and she was bigger with big boobs no bum body type. So the opposite to me

Was it to do with the fact I’m not his body type he left?

He’s always been on and off with me

When I asked will you go with this promotion he promised no and said it’s just more money for us

Then he started to get weird about things that were fine before. We started arguing and he just left

Why was this?

He left in anger said he hated time with me, hated sex with me and couldn’t stand me. Did it to keep me sweet

He claimed it was all a lie and he didn’t mean any of it

He wouldn’t really ask me for time at nights - we lived together. He would say come through to talk to him etc and we spend about 3 nights talking etc together.

He started sex twice a week most weeks too and I did the other two and he was always up for it

Did he say this in anger to me or mean it?