Is it worse to reject a guy or friend zone him (don’t want to end up being the jerk)?

[Anonymous]

I suspect that a guy that one of my friends knows will ask me out soon. I don’t like him in a romantic way but he seems like a good person. He is also kinda shy like he hasn’t talked to me yet. I am asking this to ensure I handle this right, thank you! :)

Friend zone him

Reject him

[SteveSmith1985]

This is actually really easy to answer. This is so simple, it's gonna sound sarcastic. But it's not.

If you think this guy is someone you would legitimately like to get-to-know better just as friends, then that's what you should tell him.

If this is someone who you aren't especially interested in becoming friend's with, then DON"T tell him that (reject him more outright).

Again... not sarcastic.

It really does depend on what it is you want. Don't tell someone you want to be friends out of pity, or if you don't mean it. If you don't want/intend to actually make efforts to form a friendship with this guy, then it's kinder to reject him more outright.

In other words, the only "wrong" thing you can really do here, is to tell him you want to be his friend, if you don't really mean it.

🙂

[inhua]

reject him so he can move on to someone else. it may hurt him in the short run but it'll hurt him more in the long run if keep him restricted and stunt his growth. tell him to go find someone else as a girlfriend.

[UniquelyBasic]

Its better to just reject him as soon as possible instead of dragging him along which is pretty messed up too.

[Wise4myage]

Rejection is always worse, but its the right choice.

[slatyb]

It's the same thing unless the guy is clueless.