I hear so many women on gag talk about how they want a man who can protect her, but I'm more attracted to independent women who can take care of themselves and pay their own bills. I feel like my job is to protect my child not some grown ass woman.
I don't mind filling the masculine role and being the provider and protector, as long as she is willing to fill the feminine role. Unfortunately, there are very few women anymore who are willing to do that.
In 2022 you don't owe women shit.
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Yes, it is bad - most men are naturally stronger than women but even if he's not, there has to be that desire or willingness to try and protect you. I would try and protect him, not because I am filling any gender role, but because I liked/loved him and wouldn't want him to be harmed. I wouldn't send him down alone to check on an intruder, I would follow him down with a bat too! I don't care about gender roles, I would do what I would normally do but whether it's paying for a meal, being protective, it's attractive. I don't need his money or protection necessarily but it's nice to know he's offered or tried. Just like a man would appreciate it that you had his back/offered/tried or actually paid for a meal. It's called a healthy relationship - I think you just need to meet the kind of woman who brings it out in you. I can't imagine you are going to be like this with all women otherwise you're going to be miserable and make her miserable. That said, not all women deserve this kind of man, not if they do not offer the same energy in return.
Find yourself a woman who is willing to jump into a fight to pull you out, and you will realise how wrong you are.
When you love someone, you will do anything to protect him/her. Period.
I would try my best to get my lady out of a bad situation, instead of trying to "shield" her. No point in me trying to be macho and ending up getting injured anyway. And I would expect the exact same from her when I am in a pickle.
There was a car accident a few months ago here. Burning wreck, but the driver's girlfriend sustained burns over 80% of her body trying to pull him out. I also heard of a woman who wrapped herself around her boyfriend's head in a fight so he would not sustain any neck and brain injuries. That is the kind of love you should have in any relationship. Selfless love. Willing to do anything to save/protect your partner.
Any good person wants to provide for their partner. It is an expression of love. It could come in the form of providing a clean home. Or paying the bills. Or making dinner. Providing for someone is a must-have in any relationship.
And to all the ladies saying that they expect their man to defend them without having the same expectation for themselves, two is always better than one. Home intruder? Get down there with your husband, frying pan in hand. Situation at a bar? Grab a few men and a broken beer bottle, get them to help you get your man away from danger. Nobody is asking you to be a good fighter, but you should also live up to your own expectations and be there with your man if the situation arises. He will will appreciate it.
A lot of it is more the idea than the reality of like, being attacked every day or even ever being attacked, however I will say, if I am ever attacked by anything or anyone, I will be running or otherwise trying to get away and I will expect him to defend me. If we ever hear a suspicious noise in the apartment at night I am not checking, he is checking. Nobody has to agree to do that but nobody has to date any particular person either and I would not date a guy who is not OK with that. JMO!
For 60 years the female collective has screetched hate at us, told us that we were not needed or wanted and said that they wanted us dead (#KillAllMen).
The female collective lobbied successfully to have laws reframed, so that men were destroyed in divorce courts and denied natural justice.
The legal situation has been made so dire for men that it has become too dangerous to say “good morning” to a female, or to be anywhere in the vicinity of a female without CCTV or similar that can be used as evidence after a false allegation has been made.
Why would any sane man be interested in protecting or providing for members of the female collective?
When someone says that they hate you and want you dead, believe them.
People protect who they love. If you really love someone, you will want to protect them. In a healthy relationship both parties will have each other's back, that doesn't mean being their caretaker, but it does mean that you are there to support them when they need it.
Feminism Has Liberated Men by insisting that women are physically equal to men and do not need men.
So men have taken that to mean that they no longer have to marry, they can take jobs that give them just enough earnings to be comfortable,
By not having to support a family, to not do killing amounts of overtime working more hours than living,
Not having take on debt through mortgages,
They can now pursue any hobby,
Just be a bachelor and interacting or not with women as the mood takes them.
Well done feminists you created this and you are now learning about the law of unintended consequences.
Here's the key... have you ever been asked if you want to accept the rights and responsibilities of your gender role?
Because if that's a role you're forced into, then it's not a healthy one. That's something that you yourself need to decide if you want to consent to that. Regressing to gaining the protects of a child and all that isn't an option, but whether or not you choose to accept the pros and cons of being a man is.
I don’t think the whole idea of protecting women is meant to be taken literally. It’s not like there are lots of people wielding swords (*guns) on the streets threatening women on the daily.
It’s more for the sentiment of having your partner’s back and supporting them. Not necessarily financially as women are basically on par with men in terms of employment rates.
I get it. You’re not necessarily saying you would abandon your woman but you don’t want to be her servant. I get that. Protect someone who is worth protecting and will reciprocate in her own way not someone who’s going to use you and then leave you when things get challenging.
I want a woman willing to be protected, but also not helpless if I can't do it 24/7.
That's why I look for those who have demonstrated a capacity for honest survival, but are eager to learn new things. If she can teach new things to me in return, even better!
Life is a journey, a set of missions, and a series of assignments. Teammates for different facets have to be chosen wisely. Dead weight will simply drown you.
Honestly? That’s your preference and you have a right to what type of woman you want. I understand why some men feel the need to provide for their women but I also understand a man wanting a woman who is independent and pays her own way. I always felt awkward when a man tried to constantly pay my way. I believe in the 50/50 theory where both partners pay equal the bills and put in equal the effort as far as the relationship goes.
You have to understand most women are not capable of taking care of themselves and needs mans help.
Why do you think people say "Women and children first" ? both are equally helpless
There's no difference between children's brain and woman's brain
in my opinion it's bad, but I suppose that as long as you make your position known to her up-front, it's fine.
It's certainly not how my relationships are structured, though.
There are plenty of women who don't want a protector.
Just make sure you find one that fits your mentality and you should be fine
As a woman, it would not be a problem to be financially independent but anything else, it would be nice to have a partner who would offer support, especially emotional support, and protection without asking. But then again, everything needs to be mutual and comes from both parties.
It's understandable, given the current political climate. I more so blame the environment, not the ones it failed. Feminism killed both the gentlemen and the ladies.
That's fine. There are plenty of women who think cleaning and cooking for a man makes that man a child. So you would be perfect for such women.
not really. a lot of women wouldn't want to protect a grown man either. nature is heavily against marriage vows.
Its not something most think about but just do anyways. I see what you mean but this doesn't seem like something most will agree with you on.
Well it's definitely not a good thing to not want to protect the people you love.
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