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My boyfriend thinks I drink too much coffee- I only have 2 per day 3 if I’m having a super tiring type of a day or if I have to drive anywhere…. lately he tells me to only have 1 caffeinated coffee in the morning and a decafinated one later in the day…. he thinks I’m overdoing it and he says he cares and he’s only looking out….

am I overdoing it? Or is this a form of control from his end?

28F, I’m leaning towards bad luck. I’m very introverted & not the friendliest but I don’t think I’m intimidating. I’m told I’m cute/attractive, it’s not like a runway model & guys just never approach me. I’m told guys look at me but they never do anything about it & I’m too shy. I know there’s nothing wrong with me, most women seem to get guys so easily. That’s why I’ve been on and off the apps since I was maybe 18, getting matches have never been a prob. Convo always fades, ghosting, lack of interest (goes both ways) & some guys who are crazy. I’ve tried a lot of them, usually I stick with Hinge. It’s always a pattern of the guys I want who don’t want me back & the ones that want me I don’t like back. For maybe the past year I’ve become less and less interested, I reply to matches/msgs every couple of days? A few people have said maybe I’m asexual (haven’t had sex or masturbated in years), assume I’m gay or I’m unsure of what I want. Maybe they’re all wrong & simply I haven’t found the right person?

I’m the last young child left in family. All my step siblings are older than me and brothers wife’s 4 sisters all are married now. The youngest sister 28 got proposed to this week. I’m not 28 yet but I worry by that age I won’t be married at all. I feel it’s not in my destiny to be married never. I feel like a loser as everyone in family is stuck up now rich perfect life with husband and im loser little girl. That show I feel. I have a boyfriend & live alone in an apartment. But to me she 25 is like a grown women I want be proposed to start living with a guy now fast. I use a horoscope app and they have said since last years it was seen 2023 I’ll be pregnant. So I’ll just have baby not married (yet)? I know many girls marry til after they have baby. I don't know y god want everything backwards for me and he choose only them be happy and he wants me unhappy in life. I feel lonely I’m a black sheep I can’t show off to anyone my beaitful apartment & how happy I am with boyfriend, they only care of their life. To the point I’m ignored and they only talk of their life so I’m distant from all of them forevever. And try live my own life alone with boyfriend. 😞 I did marry when I was young but it was a guy that used me & since he was tall & I was extremely short had baby face, he treated me like I’m a stupid little girl & not an adult women. I’m divorced soon this year, still with same boyfriend. But boyfriend and I are short so he treat me like a women never is judging me. And that guy is now with a. Super tall women like him. So for sure that guy wasn’t for me and boyfriend maybe is for me.

I’m 38 but I’ve been getting called ma’am a lot and people treat me as if I’m a senior citizen.

That same day he texted me asking he how I am.

do you think he saw me on there too?

My fiancé keeps criticizing my body. He says I need to lose more weight and get laser and do something different with my hairstyle, etc. But then he also desires and wants me physically. We both don’t believe in pre-marital but he has stared and touched and expressed what he wants when he is in the mood. Not sure what to make of this. When he criticizes basically everything, it seems like he isn’t attracted to me and doesn’t want me but then he also acts very different when he is in the mood and he still wants to marry me so it is very confusing. I am working on myself as much as I can — I work out every other day at 5am, I follow the calorie deficits, I am working on laser — but he feels like I’m not doing it fast enough. And I don’t think I’m hideous or he wouldn’t want to marry me and I wouldn’t have multiple people interested but he still berates perpetually and at this point, I am starting to hate myself so just trying to get some clarity on his behavior to try and rationalize. Is this a normal behavior?

So there was this cafe I once ordered food from years ago. Well, pastries actually and they were amazing. We sat down, ate, went home. Today, I revisited the cafe in search of those pastries but they removed that section, so the my travel companion (she is older than me) insisted me to order something, I saw the menu and it was pricey. And I didn't wanna spend much. So we left. While on the road my companion said that when you enter a cafe you are supposed to sit down and order something. It doesn't look good to just enter a cafe and leave. What do you say? What would you do?

Do you wish it was the opposite?

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My best friend is 34 and I am 48.

He sometimes falls asleep while texting me on Whatsapp. We always text 4-5 hours each night from 10pm-3am. He said he is so tired and I should be flattered that he forces himself to chat with me as he only sleeps 4 hours everyday. He said he can be so tired that he even falls sleeps while riding his motorbike.

He has been unemployed for 7 years and only plays computer games, watches videos or plays guitar everyday.

Should I be upset with him for falling asleep while chatting with me? He has fallen asleep like 6-7 times in 7 years so I asked him to stop forcing himself already and go find someone who won't make him fall asleep to chat with.

Just to clarify, I wanted a long winter coat but it's only available in standard version, no petite one and I'm 5'2 and they all manufacture it for 5'7 and taller women :( Thus unfortunately the coat ends below my middle calf instead of under the knees.

I think it looks nice but I am not sure. My mother said it's huge on me but it's a winter PADDED coat and she hates long coats so she's biased too.

The shop advised to actually go for LARGER size but I dismissed that and went with my classic, usual size. Should I size down, look for another coat or keep this one?

If u were homeless.. and u were gonna get kick out of the shelter. ( The staff in the shelter likes to kick out people who are trying there damndest to get out and have a home )
Where the hell would u stay at?

I currently work 3 jobs.
2 is on call ( so u can say part-time )
And 1 is fultime
I been thinking getting a 4th job so I can stay at my job instead of on the streets

We are okay now, like the msgs show I deleted him back in Dec & he msged me last week to find out why I removed him. I didn’t see the point in beating around the bush, he seemed to own up to it & I added him back today (He’s gray & I’m purple)